28/09/2022
Good morninig all ,
Our Topic How to discipline your child the smart and healthy way ,Engaging them while they where young .
There comes a time when every parent struggles with how best to discipline their child. Whether dealing with a screaming toddler or an angry teen, it can be hard to control your temper. No parent wants to find themselves in such a situation and the bottom line is that shouting and physical violence never help.
The evidence is clear: shouting and hitting in most causes do not work and can do more harm than good in the long run. Repeated shouting and hitting can even adversely impact a child’s entire life. The continued “toxic stress” it creates can lead to a host of negative outcomes like higher chances of school dropout, depression ,school drop out and others .
When we know something doesn't work, that's a pretty good reason to look for a different approach.
Rather than punishment and what not to do, the positive discipline approach puts an emphasis on developing a healthy relationship with your child and setting expectations around behaviour. The good news for every parent is it works and here’s how you can start putting it into practice:
1. Plan 1-on-1 time
One-on-one time is important for building any good relationship and even more so with your children. “It can be 20 minutes a day. Or even 5 minutes. You can combine it with something like washing dishes together while you sing a song or chatting while you're hanging out the washing,” What's really important is that you focus on your child. So, you turn your TV off, you turn your phone off, you get to their level and it's you and them.
2. Praise the positives
As parents we often focus on our children’s bad behaviour and call it out. Children may read this as a way to get your attention, perpetuating poor conduct rather than putting a stop to it.
Children thrive on praise. It makes them feel loved and special. Watch out for when they're doing something good and praise them, even if that thing is just playing for five minutes with their sibling,. “This can encourage good behaviour and reduce the need for discipline.”
3. Set clear expectations
Telling your child exactly what you want them to do is much more effective than telling them what not to do When you ask a child to not make a mess, or to be good, they don't necessarily understand what they're required to do.” Clear instructions like “Please pick up all of your toys and put them in the box” set a clear expectation and increase the likelihood that they'll do what you’re asking.
But it's important to set realistic expectations. Asking them to stay quiet for a whole day may not be as manageable as asking for 10 minutes of quiet time while you have a phone call,
You know what your child is capable of. But if you ask for the impossible, they are going to fail.”
4. Distract creatively
When your child is being difficult, distracting them with a more positive activity can be a useful strategy says be ,When you distract them towards something else – by changing the topic, introducing a game, leading them into another room, or going for a walk, you can successfully divert their energy towards positive behaviour.
Timing is also crucial. Distraction is also about spotting when things are about to go wrong and taking action. Being mindful of when your child is starting to become fidgety, irritable or annoyed, or when two siblings are eyeing the same toy, can help diffuse a potential situation before it becomes one.
5. Use calm consequences
Part of growing up is learning that if you do something, something can happen as a result. Defining this for your child is a simple process that encourages better behaviour while teaching them about responsibility.
Give your child a chance to do the right thing by explaining the consequences of their bad behaviour. As an example, if you want your child to stop scribbling on the walls, you can tell them to stop or else you will end their play time. This provides them with a warning and an opportunity to change their behaviour.
If they don’t stop, follow through with the consequences calmly and without showing anger, and give yourself credit for that – it’s not easy
If they do stop, give them lots of praise for it, What you are doing is creating a positive feedback loop for your child. Calm consequences have been shown to be effective for kids to learn about what happens when they behave badly.”
Being consistent is a key factor in positive parenting, which is why following through with the consequences is important. And so is making them realistic. “You can take a teenager's phone away for an hour but taking it away for a week might be difficult to follow through on.”
Engaging with younger children
One-on-one time can be fun – and it’s completely free! You can copy their expressions, bang spoons against pots, or sing together .There’s amazing research showing that playing with your children boosts their brain development.”
Engaging with older children
Like younger children, teenagers seek praise and want to be thought of as good. One-on-one time is still important to them. “They love it if you dance around the room with them or engage in a conversation about their favourite singer,” says Professor Cluver. They may not always show it, but they do. And, it's an effective way of building a relationship on their terms.
Get them Pets to care for
Get your children pets to care for it make them responsible from childhood to adult .
Give them total freedom of those pets and guide them with necessary informations on how to make them grow .for me my twins handles the farm Taye manage Rabbits and while Kehinde Manages Grassutters and they are doing well at it .
To avoid them joining street guys ,young school cult and other bed behaviors out there
Rules
While setting expectations ask them to help make some of the rules Sit them down and try to agree on the household dos and don'ts. They can also help decide what the consequences for unacceptable behaviour will be. Being involved in the process helps them know that you understand they're becoming their own independent beings.
Almighty God will bless our household and bless our hustle .
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