08/10/2023
It's a busy, busy life.
It's time to talk about fur-parent guilt. This is something that I see often as a veterinarian. It's like parent guilt, but sometimes it's worse. Parent guilt is that feeling that we parents (of human kids and pet kids) aren't being good enough parents... kind of an underlying sort of anxiety.
We think we're not spending enough time with our pets, or not keeping them safe enough, or not training them well enough, or not spending enough money on them... look it could be anything.
Everyone has different relationships with their pets, so I'm not going to cast judgement on how much energy, time, or money you should be spending on your pet. But here are a few thoughts...
If you are worried about how much time you spend with your pet, maybe try and see if you can find 15 minutes a day to spend one-on-one with your pet. Then think about what your pet enjoys (toys, other people, other pets) and make an effort to help your pet access these other forms of enjoyment on a regular basis (once a week or once a month, perhaps).
If you are concerned about how much training your pet has, and if you have made some sort of attempt to train them, then don't worry too much. If you can keep your pet, other pets, and people safe and sane when interacting with your pet then you've done a great job.
If you're worried about not spending enough money on your pets, don't worry. If your pet gets a reasonably balanced diet (yes, cheap supermarket foods are not ideal but are often perfectly fine) and doesn't have any terrible, un-treated health problems.... you are doing great. You don't have to spend loads of money and get the best of everything. You don't have to treat an expensive health problem as long as you are in discussion with your veterinarian on how to ensure the welfare of your pet is acceptable.
It's worth bearing in mind that pets are supposed to make our life more enjoyable. If you have an on-going concern about a serious behavioural problem (or any other major concern), talk to your veterinarian. We've seen it all, and we can help you work out a way forward.