22/06/2022
Being your dogâs leader is not about forcing them to do stuff and beating them up, or yelling at them when they do something you donât like. Itâs not about being controlling, creating fear, or being mean. Good leadership doesnât come from a place of ego, but rather one of selflessness.
Dominance/submission are not dirty words, but they have become that way due to poor associations and lack of understanding of what a leader should be. I donât mean merely the perception of dog handlers here, but also human relationships which have marred the terms - whether that be by your parents, spouse, boss, or basically anyone who holds some position of power over you. A healthy leader/follower relationship is an art form, both a joy to observe or to be a part of (regardless of which position you hold). It is harmonious and balanced, just as beautiful dance or piece of music is.
A true leader is pure of heart, mind, and soul, or at least tries their very best to be this way. They look out for their dependents needs, protect them from harm, and help them reach their full potential. They care for them, build them up, love them, and strive to understand them to the best of their ability (for you cannot adequately lead if you do not understand the ones you are leading). The qualities of a good leader are, among others: love, patience, kindness, empathy, self control, understanding of self, selflessness, confidence, calmness, and virtue.
This is not to say that you should never tell your dog off - corrections are a vital part of leadership. Rather, your corrections should be administered with care and mindfulness, with the dogâs wellbeing in mind, and all whilst keeping your emotions in check. A dog should never be exposed to a correction made in anger or any other unstable emotional state, regardless of whether these emotions are related to the situation at hand or not. Mastery of self is key - keep yourself in check.
To be continuedâŚ