04/03/2022
I so love this. I wish I had had the confidence, strength and knowledge right from the beginning to know that “It’s OK”. 👌🤗
Swimming against the tide is hard work. Day after day, week after week, year after year. Especially when you’re starting out 🏊🏻♀️🥵
Knowing how good it feels, seeing that it’s working, learning and trusting the science, and believing and never giving up…it’s all part of the journey! 🐴🤎
🐴It's OK🐴
Lots of us worry that we’re not perfect. We believe that the horse world has certain standards and that if we don’t meet them, we’re failing. There seems to be an agreed standard for lots of things, and if you can’t do that, you are in some way lacking.
It’s not always clear how the standards arose, but it’s often the case that they don’t always take the horse’s nature and experiences into account. Standards are often part of tradition, and we continue to maintain them even when we’re not sure why they are considered so important. In recent years, social media has contributed another kind of pressure. Add to that the way some horse products are packaged and marketed, and owners can sometimes feel there’s only one way to do something and that if they can’t, they’re somehow failing.
Here at Positive Equine Training Scotland, we believe that the real standard is “are you making life as pleasant and easy for yourself and your horse as possible?”
Based on that, here’s a few messages for you from us at Positive Equine Training Scotland.
🏵It’s OK to sponge fly spray on to your horse if they are worried about sprays.
🏵It's OK to help a horse settle for a hoof trim or shoeing by providing a comfortable and pleasant environment including access to forage.
🏵It's OK to comfort and reassure your horse if they are worried or stressed and it’s OK to call a halt to a non emergency procedure that is causing your horse to be fearful.
🏵It's OK to dismount if your horse is finding coping with a worry more difficult because they have a rider.
🏵It's OK to take your horse for a walk in hand instead of riding if either of you is feeling overwhelmed by the idea of riding.
🏵It's OK to introduce scary things to your horse with you on the ground (and using food both to reinforce the behaviour you want and create a positive association). If it’s new and scary, make it easy, don’t battle through difficulties.
🏵It's OK to allow your stiff horse to rest a hind hoof on the toe for hoof cleaning, rather than lift their leg right up.
🏵It's OK to sponge your horse if they are worried about hoses.
🏵It's OK to put a head collar on in a different way to all your friends, because your horse has worries about things touching their ears or hands near their eyes.
🏵It's OK to give wormer in a tasty feed for horses who have had bad experiences having wormer administered orally.
🏵It's OK to sedate a horse who’s worried to have essential treatment, there’s no need to try to prove you can cope with a stressed horse.
🏵It's OK to train using food, horses eat nearly 18 hours out of 24 so have evolved to learn this way.
🏵It's OK to not use positive reinforcement, and instead find another low stress way to handle a situation, when you haven’t had a chance to prepare.
🏵It's OK to have less than perfectly groomed horses, they actually coat themselves in mud because they enjoy it, so a little mud is not a sign of you failing.
There are things we need to do that are fundamental to the health and wellbeing of our horses, but do they have to be done the same way they’ve always been done?
Let’s start putting our horses’ and our own enjoyment ahead of “the gold standard”. If your horse finds something stressful, you can help change that response through training (and we at PETS would LOVE to help you do that), but in the meantime, if your horse is less stressed, you will enjoy the time you spend with them more.
What things do you do that are OK and you’d like the rest of the world to know?