08/20/2023
I always say how much I hate labels !!
Kara Stark McGrew
Many, many years ago, I bought a horse from an auction, I knew nothing about him.
I brought him home and found that he was a bit grouchy when approached in his stall and when asked to canter off he would lunge through the air.
I found that I quite quickly started to put "labels" on him. Labels like he was "tough sided" and "heavy on the bit", among many others.
One Day it hit me (thanks to all the transformational work that i was doing at the time)that if I kept approaching him as "tough sided" and "heavy on the bit", then he was never going to have the opportunity to show up any other way ...because of who I was BEING to him in my approach!! So in that moment I started to redefine the labels I put on him. I approached him as sensitive instead of insensitive......and I got to experience an entirely new horse who was living in the same body!
I share this story because it is human nature to want to define and label things. The mind feels safe when it can identify something and then categorize it as something familiar.
However the way we define and label things aren't always done in TRUTH or in a way that works for us but instead against us.
I coach so many people who put labels on themselves in ways that keep them from experiencing their own greatness! Labels that make them perceive themselves a certain way that aligns them to act a certain way and therfore produces results in their lives that they don't desire. Labels that keep them small, unfulfilled, and not living life full out!
Today, pause for a moment and READ INTO THE LABELS! The ones you put on yourself, your horses, others, situations......and ask yourself if you can rewrite any of these labels in a way that is going to support you in showing up differently so that you can access a whole new experience in life.
Labels are about our perceptions and they dictate how YOU will show up to yourself and others, and until YOU show up differently, the change you are seeking in yourself, others, or your horse, will not be accessible.
Have a mind expanding and life enhancing weekend everyone! ☮️🤍🐴✨️
[On a side-note, the horse that was grouchy in his stall and lunged through the air, became a horse shown by many kids, and found his person who HE made a first time horse owner.]
THANK YOU for the life-changing lesson, Carter, my gratitude for you will remain for eternity 🙏 💜 💫