02/20/2024
Absolutely true! Don’t take it personally…we all have our good days, not so good days, and bad days! It doesn’t mean that practice can’t be perfect even if that means schooling a bit on a not so good day and then going home and having a relaxing evening!!
What rider schooling a horse hasn’t noticed that some days seem better than others? "Better" can mean many things, calmer, steadier, more responsive to aids, more actively forward, less frantically forward, easier to keep balanced, lots of different ways of responding to the training that we think of as positive.
And what I have begun to realize is that old saying that “comparison is the thief of joy.”
By that I mean that if I start to question, “Why is he being like this today when he was so good just two days ago?” I am creating a slightly accusatory tone, maybe if only to a subtle extent, but that disappointment is there, and disappointment is a negative quality to hold when anyone is training a horse.
Why? Because of the ever so human and natural desire to fix it, to improve it, to get it back to the way it was two days ago.
And what is wrong with that? Don’t we train so that the horse DOES get better?
Yes, but not if we start to intensify the fix-it buttons by adding, perhaps, more pressure, more repetition, more urgency. Training well is a subtle dance between asking for some difference while tiptoeing along below the anxiety threshold of the horse.
So often if we had just been able to think, “He was better two days ago,” and leave it at that without asking the “WHY” we could have ended on a better note than by getting into any sort of contest, two days ago versus today?
Anyway, something to possibly consider if you find yourself in that situation---.