11/07/2025
A Letter to Trainers and Owners…
Find yourself a trainer who does what they say they’ll do.
Find one who’s honest enough and humble enough to tell you things like:
“This horse and my program aren’t a good fit.”
“We need to check for pain before we go any further.”
“This horse isn’t mentally ready yet.”
“Maybe this horse isn’t the right match for you.”
The good ones don’t dodge those conversations, they start them.
There are a lot of trainers out there who won’t take the time if your horse:
• Doesn’t think or respond like every other one in the barn.
• Isn’t bred for the discipline you’re chasing.
• Has been bounced around or “flunked out” of another program.
• Doesn’t make them look good.
Sure, not every horse is going to make it as a reiner, cow horse, rope horse, barrel horse, or dressage horse.
But most of them will shine somewhere if someone just takes the time to figure out why they struggle, what they’re trying to say, or where they truly fit.
At the end of the day, you need someone who’s on your team not just on your checkbook.
To the owners:
Be open to vet work. I won’t out-train pain and no good trainer will.
If you’re willing to do your part, it’s fair to expect the trainer to do theirs.
Understand that progress isn’t always a straight line.
Sometimes a horse needs to take a few steps back before they can move forward, especially if they’ve had rough experiences before.
A good trainer will explain the why and the plan, not just blame the horse.
Ask questions. Ask about their style. Ask for references.
If their “program” sounds one-size-fits-all, just know not every horse thrives that way.
Ask how many horses they have in training.
Ask who actually rides your horse and how often.
Assistants are a vital part of this industry, and there’s nothing wrong with them riding but you’re paying for the trainer’s feel and experience.
Make sure your horse isn’t falling through the cracks just because they’re not the fanciest one in the barn.
And to the trainers:
Don’t forget that how you carry yourself matters.
Bashing clients or other trainers doesn’t make you look tough. It makes people wonder what you’ll say about them next.
If you wouldn’t want it repeated, don’t say it.
If you’re new to the game, ride the horse, communicate, take care of them, and do the work.
These clients are giving you a chance. Treat it like one.
Take care of your clients, that’s how you get more of them.
But also take care of yourself.
Set boundaries.
If you don’t want to take calls after 7pm, don’t.
Set aside time for updates, time for yourself, and time to just breathe.
You’re human before you’re a business.
The good clients, the loyal ones, they’ll stick around.
I’ve got some that have been with me 7 or 8 years.
But don’t overlook the quiet ones with average horses, the ones not chasing ribbons or futurities.
They deserve your best too.
You never know where a simple opportunity might lead.
And at the end of the day, even when you give it everything you’ve got,
things will still go wrong sometimes.
That’s life.
Be honest. Be humble. Be better tomorrow than you were today.
That’s the part that really matters.