08/25/2024
Check Your Feels At The Gate
Most Trainers, Clinicians, and Coaches that are worth anything aren’t going to serve up a scoop of ice cream with their critique and use words like, “honey”, “baby”, etc. Not in our lifestyle.
Every trainer that I have ever seen that was super soft wasn’t worth a dang. The ones that care are going to be passionate. Appreciate that.
My daughter was at a clinic with Lari Dee once (years ago) and Lari Dee said something along the lines of, “You rope too good to be roping like that. If that’s the way you’re going to rope, go sit in the truck.” By, “something along the lines” I mean that’s exactly what she said. When my daughter told me this I laughed. When her friends overheard they said, “Are you upset by what she said to you?” My daughter told them, “Heck no! Lari Dee said I was a good roper.”
*Bonus Info: LD worked with her and at the end of the clinic jackpot, K roped the fastest time. Much respect for her directness and passion to help girls get better.
You see, my daughter is used to being talked to in a direct, but out of love, way. That’s how she was raised. She was raised to appreciate direct constructive criticism.
Earlier this week she went to a jackpot and didn’t do too well. She asked a friend (that has pretty much made several BA Ropers), if he was still offering roping at his house. Know what he said? “Yeah, and you need to come over. What are you doing?” He knew she was too good to be roping like she did that night too. She went to his place and within 2-3 calves, he had her issue pegged and they fixed it. What if she would have gotten her feelings hurt and just kept doing what she was doing, not getting any better bc of pride?
I went to pick up a calf today. We loaded him up and our friend said, “Here’s Kirsten’s rope back. She threw it down. Aint nothing wrong with this rope.” Meaning, it was her, not the rope. I told him she and the other guy worked on the issue but we also laughed. That guy also helps her and wants what’s best for her.
There’s no room for feelings inside of the practice pen. Do you want someone that cares to be honest or do you want someone to talk sweet to you? I’d rather get better.
Be direct.
Let’s fix the issues.
Go let folks help you, and leave your feelings at the gate. If they are helping you they care. Sugar coating isn’t necessary.
