04/16/2025
Someone asked me recently how long it would take me to get a horse "dead broke."
I took a breath, centered myself, and responded honestly:
There is no amount of time I could spend with a horse that would make that happen.
Because dead broke should not be a thing.
Blind obedience in the face of human hands is not partnership—it’s submission. And it comes at the cost of the horse’s voice, their agency, and sometimes, their soul. That isn’t training. That’s trauma.
You could send a horse to me for two years of full training, and when they leave this program, they will still have opinions. They will still communicate. They will still say no.
But they will say it in a way that is safe, regulated, and respectful—because that's what true partnership looks like.
They won’t be “broke.”
They’ll be whole.
But here’s the catch: you have to do the work, too.
You have to check your ego at the door.
You have to learn how to listen as much as you ask.
You have to soften when your horse braces, to be patient when they’re unsure, and to meet resistance with curiosity instead of control.
This isn’t the kind of program where you show up after six months of training expecting your horse to tick off the boxes.
This is the kind of program where you learn to ask better questions—of your horse and of yourself.
Because at the end of the day, you won’t be handed a robotic horse who performs on command.
You’ll be walking beside a sentient, sensitive being—one who knows how to regulate, how to set boundaries, how to trust, and how to dance through life with you – not for you.
And that?
That’s worth more than any timeline, any checklist, or any illusion of control.
That’s what real partnership feels like.
And it’s the only kind of “broke” I’ll ever believe in. 🐴💛