09/26/2023
Why Have We Gone Soft on Our Dogs?
Over the past decade, there's been a significant shift in how we raise and train our beloved canine companions. The era of saying "no" to our dogs has faded, making way for an era of "yes." Rules and boundaries seem to have taken a backseat as owners are influenced by the media's portrayal of keeping our dogs constantly happy and comfortable, allowing them to do as they please.
We've fallen into the trap of attempting to solve all canine issues with an overflow of love and indulgence – almost like a negotiation. We think, "If I shower you with treats, toys, and let you have the run of the house, you'll be the happiest dog ever and love/respect me.” But, dogs don't operate that way.
When we go above and beyond to treat our dogs like royalty, they often end up treating us as their subjects. Even dogs with underlying insecurities or anxiety can be pushed into a leadership role, which they aren't equipped to handle.
The result? We're witnessing a surge in aggression, fear-based aggression, resource guarding, territorial behavior, overprotectiveness, hyperactivity, and separation anxiety in our dogs. Clearly, what we're doing isn't working.
Clients often tell me, "My dog is so well-behaved and happy when they're with you, but not so much with us. Why is that?" The answer is simple – I provide stability. Dogs need to understand where they stand, which gives them a sense of security. During our sessions, I'm loving and fun, but I'm also firm, correcting unruly behavior like pulling, jumping, and nipping in an appropriate but non harsh way. They know the rules, which allows us to focus on having a blast and achieving success together.
If you fear that setting boundaries with your dog and enforcing them will make them unhappy, that's a misconception. Wild animal packs thrive with clear hierarchies and roles. So, be a leader for your dog! Enforce rules and incorporate my four favorite F words: Fun, Friendly, Firm (but never harsh), and Fair. Never just scold your dog for being bad; they need your guidance and teaching of what they are supposed to do instead. Heavy reinforcement of what you want to see and yes, timely corrections for the bad stuff followed by redirection into the desired behaviour. Those 2 need to be done together, not just correction on its own. Life’s no fun if you’re always told no but never rewarded for what you do right.
Being a good leader for your dog won't harm your relationship – it will strengthen it. Leadership isn't about dictatorship; it's about guidance and structure.
It doesn't matter how you label yourself and your dog, as long as you consistently show up as a leader, teaching and shaping the behaviors you want to see, and living a consistent lifestyle with your dog.
I challenge you to try this for just one week and see the positive changes in your bond with your dog. Share your results!
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- Coach Sara
UPK9 PEI
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