12/27/2024
I learned about WHERE my breath was and that helped so much! When a horse escalates most of us start breathing high up in our chest. That’s our own anxiety, our own escalation. I learned to push my breath back down towards my belly and ground myself there. This calms me, slows my heartbeat, slows my breathing, settles my nerves, and allows me to slow down everywhere and think clearly. Horses really respond to this.
When things ramp up, and the horse becomes emotionally elevated, that’s when they need you the most.
It’s normal and natural to become concerned with your own safety- and it makes sense why people become emotionally disrupted as well. Frustration at the horse’s behavior, fear, impatience, anger, whatever it is that strikes you in these moments is only human
But the important thing in the moment of a horse becoming upset, anxious, even dangerous in behavior- is for us to provide help, stability, direction.
What many horses get in these moments is correction without direction, abandonment, more disregulation, and an amplification of emotion. They learn not to look for human support but to try to get away-
It takes navy seal level training to condition ourselves to regulate, to stay calm, to provide support and not panic and freeze; or to react without thinking. The lead rope is in your hands, after all- and the horse has only you to rely on in this moment. What do you hope they learn in these moments? You either can help, or you’re in the way-
A good match of horse and human is crucial, and of course, ongoing dedication to being able to be that someone who can really help. Not just curb behavior, not shut it down, and surely not to panic or escalate- but to really support, and provide stability and calm i these moments. That is what a horse really needs.
Will you be that person?