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01/07/2025
Want us to give you a big secret? The most important part of training any dog, is the relationship! It is ALL about the relationship!
People always want to know what magic bullet will stop whatever issue they have, or maybe what language a cue should be in to make the dog listen. They want to know what motivator (what treat or toy?) is the best for all dogs. The reality is, it's the relationship. If your relationship is strong, based on mutual trust and understanding, with solid boundaries and an interspecies understanding, while working to further understand each other, it is MUCH easier to train the dog and have a good life together!
Let's think about a good human relationship. Does it ever work out if a man tells a woman, "you have to understand men....but I don't need to understand women"? Does it work out if one or the other is willing to do NO WORK whatsoever? Or is only willing to convey love the way THEY want to, with no thought as to how the other person needs to be loved?
Well the same goes with dogs. They are a different species and they understand things differently than we do. They also have personal preferences and feelings as well as motivations for the things they do. You can't say "you must like this particular treat because I say so", or "you must like only a pat on the head as your reward for good behavior because I say so." We have to work to find what makes that individual dog happy. And to alot of dogs, it's not spoiling that does it. Letting them do whatever they want with no rules or boundaries, constantly touching them and disregarding any of their personal preferences. It's also not ascribing human emotions and feelings to a dog. Dogs are dogs, they aren't humans. That's what makes them special. But that doesnt mean they don't have emotions.
Learning to "speak dog" and meeting a dog where they are...is half the battle! Dogs speak human, FAR better then humans speak dog! When the human is willing to do the work to speak dog, and meet them where THEY are, most dogs will happily return the favor. And THAT is the secret.
It's also the way we operate! Our goal is to not just fix your "problems"...but to strengthen your relationship, communication skills, and help shape your dogs character so that the relationship becomes the motivator and you can happily coexist together even when we are no longer there.
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