12/03/2025
No negativity allowed here!
10 Phrases You Should Never Say At the Barn
āItās Not My Faultā
It doesnāt matter whose fault it is. Itās probably just how the day is going. So many issues happen every single day with all the moving parts at the barn. Instead of wasting everyone elseās time having to put fingers at something (or someone) else, use that energy to work on what you can control. Thatās the best way to add value to the situation, for you and your horse.
Anything Negative About Someone Who is Trying
If you are not actively employing this person or involved in the outcome (e.g. you own the horse), this is gossipāplain and simple. For you to be uninvolved, negative and defeatist to someone who is trying to improve their life makes you the bad guy here. Gossip is so tempting. Check in with yourself periodically to see if you are behaving in a manner that is truly consistent with your values.
āI Donāt Have Time to Walk to Warmupā
If you donāt have time to walk your horse properly before you begin, you donāt have time to ride. Working walk, stretching, extension, and cardio and muscular warmup are an essential part of every ride for your horse. You can run a tight ship and still prioritize doing it right.
X is a Bad Horse
Calling a horse bad is never a good conversation piece. If itās not your horse, itās not really any of your business. If it is your horse, itās not helpful. Work on developing the tools within yourself to encourage every horse to go as well as possible for you. Think about your part in this ābadā behavior. See what you can take responsibility for and improve.
āItās Not Fairā
No. Itās not. Horses are, unfortunately, very unfair. But dwelling on this at the barn is not time well spent for anyone. Do we need systemic change? Yes. Join an organization fighting for opportunity and fair play in our sport and work with them to develop their programs, scholarships, education, and leveling playing fields. We all have low moments, but if you find yourself repeating āitās not fairā over and over⦠you likely need to change your attitude and work ethic. Control what you can and consider volunteering to make it better for people coming up behind you.
āThatās Not My Jobā
Yes, this sport is expensive. Youāre paying a lot to be a client/customer and feel like you should get a certain amount of service for that. However, I guarantee that everyone is getting more services than they actually pay for at their barn if they really penciled everything that comes with their experience. Be grateful for the infrastructure and financial risk someone is taking for you to pursue your dream. Weāre all together at the barn. Itās all of our jobs to help take better care of our people, ourselves, and our horses. If youāre asked to do something, it is because it would be of value to one of your human teammates in this horse experience. Do it.
š Continue reading Piper Klemm's article at https://www.theplaidhorse.com/2022/01/16/10-phrases-you-should-never-say-at-the-barn/
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