
10/16/2025
Comparison is the thief of joy.
Every week I work with dozens of puppies and dogs in my group classes, and I hear folks comparing their dog to their classmates.
“Why can’t you focus like that dog?”
“Why can’t you play more calmly?”
“I wish my dog would do that!”
It’s easy to see what other dogs are doing well, and feel frustrated that your dog isn’t there yet. But your dog is an individual, and I encourage you to focus on your dogs’ strengths, the things they’re good at, instead of focusing on their weaknesses and setting yourself up for frustration and disappointment.
Maybe your dog isn’t as good at stay as their classmates, but their recall is great! Or they have wonderful play skills and can easily play with a wide variety of buddies! Or maybe they let you do anything you need to when it comes to grooming or vet care!
There are so many wonderful things to notice when we acknowledge our dogs as an individual and stop comparing them to other dogs (or even our past dogs!)