09/17/2024
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“That can’t be true… every horse I know looks like that!”
“That can’t be true… my professional trainer said —“
When people are exposed to the reality of horse stress and how extreme and prevalent it is in the industry, denial is usually their first stop.
Accepting the fact that many common horse behaviours are actually stress signals means admitting to yourself that a huge portion of horses you’ve interacted with have been stressed.
Accepting the reality of how certain coercive and harsh equipment works means acknowledging that you caused the animals you loved pain in order to gain their compliance.
Accepting just how entrenched all of this is in equestrian culture means overturning the face of the horse world as you know it.
Denial is a lot easier than having to look at years worth of experience and learning and to admit that you’ve been led astray.
It’s a lot easier to believe that the people who expose problems are just extremists.
That they’re just liars, tree hugging hippies or “pony patters.”
That they have an ulterior motive that has nothing to do with desire to improve horse welfare.
Because the scary alternative is admitting the extent to which you’ve been taught misinformation.
Admitting this means having to kickstart a very scary unlearning and relearning journey.
One that will change you forever.
Because once you see it, you can never unsee it.
And that realization is full of a ton of grief.
Grieving the utopian version of the way you believed things to be, having to admit that much of what you were taught of the “horse-rider bond” was an idealized fallacy.
It’s a hefty undertaking.
But a worthy one.
The sad reality is this:
A lot of the behaviours studied and shown to be correlated with horse stress are commonly seen.
The common occurrence of them does not make them normal or healthy behaviours.