01/20/2024
I felt driven/ moved/ led to share something with everyone.
I’m kind tired of death right now. As I know my staff is too.
This week we’ve had 4 DOAs and 4 humane euthanasias.
Yes it’s part of the job. Yes it is often necessary and the most humane way out for the patient.
It doesn’t make it easy. It’s not something we “blow off”.
The majority of us in this profession joined to help keep animals healthy and happy; strengthen and revel in the beauty of the human-animal bond; flex our science muscles; and maybe earn enough to be comfortable in the process.
So, although we do not feel the loss of your non-human companion quite so viscerally as you do, we still hurt. We still grieve. We remember when we saw them for their first visits, their initial vaccinations, their chronic allergies, their heart disease, their broken wing, the time they ate that Christmas ornament.
We so look forward to the first visit of the young pet, and all the joy it brings.
We also understand the unique position in which we find ourselves when we can provide a dignified exit for your stalwart friend when everything reasonable fails.
But please realize after we have calmly helped your friend pass from this world; provided support for you through our words, ours presence, our hugs, and sometimes our shared tears; after you leave, we grieve further. We isolate, we commiserate with each other, we cry together and alone.
We do not ask for pity, just understanding.
And when we go home, we hold our own a little tighter, and a tad bit longer.
My staff is amazing and I’m so proud of them and the work they do every day!
It also pains me to see them distraught by the passing of their special friends they only get to enjoy periodically.
So please remember, if you have a relationship with a clinic for your special companion; those people who help care for them have a real, strong, genuine connection with your pet too. They love them, they grieve for their passing. They swallow the pain to move on to the next patient. But when they go home, they grieve all over again.
We love what we do, but we are not immune to the pain of the loss of someone’s non-human buddy. We will keep doing what we do because it rewards us on so many levels. I just wanted to take them time to speak for those of us who feel the pain, move on, and say nothing.
Thank you for listening,
Dr. Martin