Oberon and Harvey
My frustration with modern training rhetoric.
"If your dog jumps on you, just turn your back to them!"
Somewhere along the last few years we got wrapped up in anti-engagement as a means to apply enough social pressure on your dog to encourage them to experiment with new behavior. I've seen this successfully work maybe 10% of the time - if I'm being generous.
As a trainer who works heavily in the homes of my clients, I frequently run into dogs that become territoral or reactive towards me. (Being a man, having facial hair, wearing a hat, etc.) The general response from the owners is halfway between exasperation and indifference. These parents are scared their dog will decide to take a bite out of my round steak. Outside of that however, their behavior changes little.
NOTE: There is absolutely no shame in this, as many of my clients started here. Simply that I see this as a component of the poor training contagion that has infected many dog owners, and the only way out is to address the chaos.
Here are a few truth that get avoided by the modern dog training blog:
Reactivity and Rudeness will not spontaneously go away, and nobody else owes your dog understanding for inappropriate behavior.
Politeness is largely ignored by dogs.
Focusing on your dogs short term happiness and comfort often comes at the expense of it's lifetime standard of living.
I say all this to prime you for two major takeaways when you are working on behavioral issues with you dog.
1) You cannot be scared of being the bad guy.
2) In order to have the level of patience necessary to deal with a struggling, frustrated or reacting dog, you cannot allow your emotions to interfere.
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Socialization Practice
Let's talk socialization!
As someone who spends a lot of time around groups of dogs, this is definitely a concept that people struggle to understand.
So first let's give it a working definition:
Socialization is the SKILL of being able to interpret another dog's communicators accurately, and for that same dog to be able to communicate appropriately it's own desire for interaction.
What can a poorly socialized dog look like?
a) A dog that treats other dogs as threats or dangerous without the other dog giving off aggressive signals. This will likely become reactivity.
b) A dog that is too excited or happy to play and doesn't pick up on signals of disinterest from the other dog. This is a dog that will get into fights or get itself into trouble.
What does a well socialized dog look like?
a) A playful dog that approaches another mindfully, playbows, and waits for a response from it's friend.
b) A dog that shows teeth or growls without snapping and goes to it's human after the other dog backs off.
What you will notice is that "B" for both groups is backwards from what one would traditionally think. Here is the concept you need to understand to handle dogs appropriately: Dogs can be introverted and serious, and trying to push them to behave outside of their innate traits is likely to make them make mistakes. Just because they are serious or low in playfulness doesn't mean they are poorly socialized. Just because they are playful, doesn't mean they are well socialized!
Early on as puppies it is extremely beneficial to give dogs lots of feedback, both positive "Yes I like this type of play!" and negative "No, I don't like this type of play." So that when they begin to play with their friends, they already have those concepts down!
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(Video example of me and my dog playing rough. Notice he stops mouth playing but is still trying to solicit play from me.)