Rohania Farm, What Works Horsemanship

04/22/2025

04/07/2025

**Update, these spots are taken**
2 spots have opened up in the May 3rd clinic in the 3pm class. Let me know if you would like to join the fun!

04/06/2025

What a wonderful Somatic clinic we had this weekend. The weather worked out for the Friday evening gathering and exercises. Saturday was a bit colder and we had to postpone one of the sessions to next Saturday. But Eve & Brianna did wonderfully with their horses before the rain came in.

04/05/2025

This is so true and exactly what I’m trying to express all the time.

https://www.facebook.com/100063754110668/posts/1213602450774881/?mibextid=rS40aB7S9Ucbxw6v

Your correction isn’t the problem. The energy behind it is.

In any healthy relationship—human or horse—boundaries are essential. But the moment our corrections come from dominance, anger, ego, fear, or frustration… we’re no longer setting a boundary. We’re reacting.

Real boundaries come from a grounded place. A place that simply says:

“That doesn’t work for me.”
No blame. No ego. No dominance. Just clarity.

This is the work we do here.
The emotional accountability.
The clarity that invites connection instead of control.
The conversations that lead to mutual understanding.

The hardest part? Doing the work as humans to be able to set those boundaries with softness — and to receive them with grace. Because safety has to go both ways.

💬 Your horse should never feel unsafe when you say “no.”
💬 And you should never feel unsafe when your horse says “no.”

That means learning to hear them when they set a boundary — without taking it personally.
And it means learning to communicate our own boundaries — without overpowering them.

This is the deeper work.
The part of horsemanship that has nothing to do with technique…
and everything to do with who we are when we show up.

Because in the end, what we’re building isn’t obedience.
It’s a relationship.

03/29/2025

I was incredibly saddened today to hear of Bettina Drummond's passing on Thursday. I was privileged to be able to ride with her a couple of times and attend her clinics and demonstrations. I've met very few people in my life as dedicated and passionate about their life's journey and helping the horse. She was taken far to soon and will be sorely missed.

03/16/2025

I get back from Australia next week and am really looking forward to getting my herd back in shape, continuing lessons and my upcoming clinics!

03/06/2025

(Some) Things I Think About When The World Feels Hard or Tense

1. The internet is a tool that requires safeguards. It can cause inflation of emotions for things not worthy of your attention, that without it, might otherwise pass you by. Be discerning about where and on what you invest your energy.

2. What you believe shows up in your action (regardless of what you say)

3. As Robin Wall Kimmerer says, all flourishing is mutual. Flourishing at the expense of another is not flourishing, it’s oppression.

4. Power only has value if it leads to mutual flourishing.

5. We are creatures of complexity, feeling many things at the same time. You don’t have to feel guilty for experiencing joy when things around you are tough or hard. This, in fact, is how we make it through the things that are tough or hard.

6. The internet is making us intellectually lazy. If you are critiquing something or someone, or calling them names, know your argument as it sits on both sides of the fence; ‘theirs’ and ‘yours’. This does not mean you will change your mind or necessarily agree, but it makes you available for open discourse and communication. At this time, we need skills in reasoning and understanding more than ever, rather than reflexive conversations that peddles prejudice, harm, and misunderstandings.

7. A need to be liked will get in the way of what’s important to you. You cannot be for everyone. Being misunderstood at times is inevitable. Some people don’t like peaches. Imagine. I can’t.

8. You are supposed to be a different person to who you were yesterday. This is not error, but human design.

9. Your contribution needs to suit your character. There is no right way or one way for showing up in the world, or for advocating for the things that are important to you. There are as many ways as people and all are needed.

10. You are allowed to outgrow and move on from relationships that no longer align with what’s important to you, or support your wellbeing.

11. Get good at conflict and staying present in difficult situations. Know how to stay grounded and assertive- maintaining your own agency- in the midst of circumstances that are tense and heated. Combine this with number 6. Know your position.

12. A situation being unfair does not exclude you from self-responsibility. It might suck but it’s true. Sometimes the position you find yourself in is not your fault, but it’s still on you to find a way out of it.

13. If you have privilege, understand it. #12 is more real for some than others. Use your privilege to contribute to mutual flourishing. Don't let people do hard things alone.

14. Don’t argue against your own possibilities. Don’t be the main thing getting in your way.

02/05/2025

"Life has no limitations, except the ones you make" ~ Les Brown