03/11/2023
Things people say about their dogs that I can totally relate to.
“She really doesn’t like strange men approaching her”
Same.
“He hates being restrained”
Same.
“She’s super food motivated”
Same.
“When we go somewhere new with a lot of noise, he gets really anxious and wants to leave”
Same.
“If you touch her while she’s eating she gets really stiff and looks at me like she might growl”
Same.
“He doesn’t want to go to the bathroom outside when it’s raining”
Same.
“I can tell when I ask her to do something, she looks at me wondering if she’ll get a reward”
Same.
"He's fine with new people, but gets uncomfortable if they try to touch him"
Same.
“If she’s in the middle of doing something and distracted, and I ask her to come over to me, she doesn’t do it right away she finishes that and then maybe she’ll listen but I usually have to call her again”
Same.
Why are these behaviors that are so totally normal and understandable with humans and other animals not acceptable or “problems” with dogs? Why are we so quick to assume that just because we have dogs in our lives, that their personal preferences, individual personalities and also natural behaviors should just change simply because it’s more convenient for us? Seriously.
Maybe the first step is looking through a new lens. A lens of understanding and empathy and realizing dogs are the ONLY creatures on this earth we do this to….. other than our kids but that’s a whole other can of worms. No one has ever called me in tears after trying to give their cat a bath and told me the cat didn’t like it hissed at them, and they don’t know what’s wrong with it - but I get calls like this for dogs all the time. It’s just assumed that dogs should and will tolerate what we expect and when they don’t, that’s a problem. But what if it isn’t? What if it’s just that dog? Why are we doing this to them? It’s making them crazy…. And making dog trainers even more crazy.
Take a step back. Look through a new lens. Behavior can be worked on, of course. But maybe it’s your behavior that has to change first, then we can talk about the dog.