11/21/2025
Your absolute “opinion” is limiting your dog’s ability to improve, change, or be the best version of themselves.
The myth I hear often, especially in the rescue and shelter world, is my dog (male or female) doesn’t get along with dogs of the same s*x.
First off, most dogs in rescue (but not all) were spayed/neutered at a pretty young age! That procedure is removing the s*x organs basically rendering your dog de-s*xed. That means they are not truly going to behave as a male or female.
We call them something different in the horse world: they are a gelding. The procedure is mostly done with male horses.
Now I’m not saying that s*xist dogs don’t exist. Sure I have known one case (maybe two) where a dog (intact and not des*xed) was consistently aggressive towards dogs of a specific s*x. It’s rare!
When I actually start working with dogs, who their owners clam “they only get along with female/male dogs” I usually find its actually more personality or play style or communication cues they are responding to. Not the s*x of the dog. Then the owners are shocked when I bring a dog over to socialize with that is of the supposed s*x the dog doesnt like, and there is no aggression.
I do think that there is something to masculine behaviors and feminine behaviors. However, I know des*xed dogs to act in ways that don’t “match” their true s*x characteristics. So it could be that a dog feels threatened by dogs who behave more masculine or feminine but this is too Nuanced to say with any certainty.
Mostly, who your dog gets along with comes down to socialization/social history and their unique personality and preferences.
We can all understand not taking a liking to certain personality types. Some people don’t like me because of how direct, passionate, and loud I am. Some of that might be because I’m a women but it’s not all what makes me who I am? Right?
When we say my dog only likes ___. We are then projecting and limiting them. Until you can ask your dog and get a definitive answer in return it’s best to try and keep an open mind. Besides preferences can change over time and new experiences.