06/17/2021
This is a great read! Puppies and older dogs do not have to meet and greet every person or other dog--as a matter of fact, they don't even have to like every person or dog that they encounter!
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Your dog doesn't like to be near other dogs and will often bark. A friendly person comes over politely and asks if they can meet, you don't want to make a big deal of it or for people to think your dog is aggressive. Maybe it'll go well this time? So you let them meet. Your dog barks at the other dog, the other person looks surprised and you part ways.
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Your puppy is still learning all about the world and gets excited about people and dogs. You try to keep a distance and reward your puppy for calmness and for paying attention to you.
But puppies are cute. People think puppies need to be 'socialised' (probably the most misunderstood term in dog behaviour!) So they approach and fuss your pup. You don't want to be rude so you let it happen.
Your pup gets excited and is even more focused on other people in future or becomes overwhelmed (bad socialisation)
โIt should not be the norm to approach dogs. It should not be presumed that people wish to 'socialise' their puppy by having hands all over them or another dog in their face.
Quite simply it's not your job to pacify people. If they are offended that you have asked for space, for them to not fuss your puppy, for the dogs to not meet; the negativity is theirs, not yours
We need to be careful with the interactions puppies have. If meeting every dog or every person; that'll become the norm. Not fun in the long run. Many pups are actually showing they are uncomfortable using body language that goes unnoticed and leads to a negative experience. This leads to problems
I've had Wren for 12 weeks now and I have to ask numerous people to ignore her every time we go out. People are offended, think I'm not socialising her, give unsolicited training advice or think I'm being rude.
I'm just her advocate ๐พ๐ถ๐พ