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08/09/2023

At last, the most famous poem in pet loss has it's rightful author. Please read on:

Rainbow Bridge: Setting the Record Straight

Most anyone who has loved and lost a dog has most certainly heard of the poem, Rainbow Bridge, a tribute to pets that have passed. The poem has touched the lives of millions of pet lovers around the world.
Most often, it has been shared, posted or inscribed with "Author Unknown" attached to it. Paul Koudounaris, an art historian and a founding member of The Order of the Good Death, was on a mission to find the poem's true auther.
Through his research, Koudounaris found records of 15 separate claims filed under the title "Rainbow Bridge" with the United States Copyright Office, dating as far back as 1995. He compiled a list of 25 names he found that had any connection to the poem. Then, he found the name Edna Clyne from Scotland, in an online chat group. A little Googling led him to the name Edna Clyne-Rekhy, whose authorship of a book about her late husband and their dog made him jot her name onto the list — the only woman and the only non-American.
"What initially would have seemed like the most unlikely candidate in the end turned out to be the most intriguing candidate and, of course, the actual author," said Koudounaris. When Koudounaris contacted 82-year-old Ms. Clyne-Rekhy, she had no idea that the poem she had written more than 60 years ago to honor her childhood dog had brought comfort to so many people.
Major, a Labrador Retriever, was Edna's first dog. "Major was a very special dog," said Edna. “Sometimes I would just sit and talk to him, and I felt that he could understand every word I said.” Her mother used to ask how Edna had trained Major to be so gentle and obedient, and she still laughs about the question, explaining that she had never trained him at all, it was natural between them.
Major died in 1959, when Edna was 19 years old. The day after he passed, Edna found a notebook and pulled a piece of paper from it. As she began writing, she felt as if Major was guiding her pen.
"Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge," the poem begins. When she was finished, she wrote "Rainbow Bridge" at the top of the piece of paper, then showed it to her mother, who responded, "My darling girl, you are very special." Afterwards, she put the piece of paper away and didn't show it to anyone else for a long time.
Years later, she showed the poem to her husband, Jack Rekhy, who suggested she publish it. But, Edna didn't want to, telling him it was something private between herself and Major.
Eventually, Edna typed up a few copies and handed them out to close friends - but she did not add her name on those copies. As more and more people shared the poem, it became cut off from its source.
By the early 1990s it had crossed the Atlantic. In February 1994, a woman from Grand Rapids, Michigan, sent a copy of Rainbow Bridge that they had received from their local humane society to the advice column Dear Abby. It was published with a comment from Abigail Van Buren (Dear Abby), "I'm sure that many readers will be as moved as I when they read it. I confess, I shed a tear or two. Regrettably, you did not include the name of the author. If anyone in my reading audience can verify authorship, please let me know." The letter provoked an overwhelming reponse with mailbags full of letters from pet owners who had been touched by the poem.
When Koudounaris reached Edna, she was surprised he found her, and the reason why. She told him everything, inluding that the original poem sat in a box in her attic marked, "If you can't find it, it's in here."
Edna confessed to Koudounaris that when she took the poem out of the box to take photos of it for him that she began to cry. The memory of Major in the poem still carries that much emotional power for Edna.
"More than anything though, she is simply flattered that something she wrote so long ago has resonated with such a vast number of people—the fact that it has comforted so many is the greatest possible homage to her love for Major," Koudounaris said. "She knew nothing about the inscribed tablets in pet cemeteries. She had also never heard the abbreviation ATB. I had to explain that it meant 'At The Bridge', and that there are entire mourning groups based around those three letters, which signify the pets waiting to meet their owners at a place she invented for Major."
"As a concept, what nineteen-year-old Edna envisioned is a kind of limbo where deceased pets are returned to their most hale form and cavort in newfound youth in an Elysian setting," wrote Koudounaris. "But it is not paradise itself. Rather, it is a kind of way station where the spirit of an animal waits for the arrival of its earthly human companion, so that they may cross the Bridge together, to achieve true and eternal paradise in each other’s company, and to thereafter never again be parted."
Koudounaris asked one question of Edna that took her aback during their discussions. What advice could she share for someone suffering from the loss of a pet?
"Her response was then immediate – get another pet," wrote Koudounaris. "She said that the relationship with a new pet will never be the same as the relationship with the old one, but it can be equally special and loving in different ways.
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Shown: A recent photograph of Edna with her dogs Zannussi and Missy. Courtesy of Edna Clyne-Rekhy

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“Force-free/Positive Reinforcement trainers only reward the good and ignore the bad!”

Nah, mate. We’re here to completely abolish the entire concept of “good” and “bad” behaviour altogether.

Dogs do not know what “good or bad” and “right or wrong” are. These are human constructs and concepts that mean absolutely nothing to them (which is honestly wonderful).

What they know is what’s safe and unsafe, what’s pleasant and unpleasant. So if we think we are letting our dog know that their behaviour is “bad” or “wrong” through punishment, we are essentially letting them know that something unpleasant is about to happen, and sadly potentially also that we are unsafe to be around.

What even is “bad” behaviour anyway? Is it things our dogs do that inconveniences us as people? Behaviours we or society decided that we don’t like in dogs even though they are just being dogs or just trying their hardest to communicate with us?

Our dogs’ behaviours are information. Even jumping up, growling, barking, lunging, digging, pulling on leash, snapping, biting, etc. are information about what our dogs might be in need of in that moment and what we have to do to meet those needs and help them feel safe.

Yes, sometimes they may feel challenging for us, but that does not mean that it’s “bad” behaviour nor does it need to be punished and suppressed.

And what even is “good” behaviour? Obedience and compliance? Total “neutrality” to everything?

I don’t want that ever. I want my dog to feel safe to communicate and express himself, to have his needs met and let me know what he needs. I want him to feel safe to say “no, absolutely not” and to feel safe to try something new, even if that means jumping into the raised plant beds now and then and having a cheeky little dig. I want him to be a dog and be who he is.

I want him to feel safe with me and in this world.

When we abolish the concept of “good” and “bad” when it comes to our dog’s behaviour, we can finally see it for what it is and learn what they are trying to communicate and meet their needs more effectively.

We can learn and grow together, and feel safe with each other without the baggage of these unnecessary constructs.

ID: The background photo shows a white dog running on the grass behind a person. The handwritten style text above has a strikethrough and says in quotation marks “Reward the good, ignore the bad”. The text under this in red highlights says “Abolish the idea of ‘good’ and ‘bad’ dog behaviour.”

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06/18/2023

The sun is shining and many of us are spending more time in our gardens with doors and windows wide open to take advantage of the weather.

If you have recently adopted a rescued dog or if you are fostering a dog, until you get to know the dog well, please expect the unexpected!

Some dogs can and will...

* Jump a fence, even 6ft or more, from standing.
* Chew through fencing to create an escape hole.
* Squeeze through tiny gaps in fencing.
* Dig and squeeze under a fence in seconds.
* Escape through open windows.
* Push through cat flaps and easily jump over baby gates.

Too many newly adopted dogs are escaping their new homes, especially in the first few hours and days. Some dogs are sadly never found and others are injured or killed on the roads.

In cases of newly adopted ex street dogs, your dog might try to escape because he isn’t used to living in a home and being confined to a garden. Remember however much you love him, he doesn’t know and trust you yet!

He might be spooked by the sudden noise of your neighbour’s lawnmower, screaming children playing nearby, or frightened by a passing motorbike that back fires.

A sudden boom of thunder, random fireworks, a passing hot air balloon, helicopter or even a fence panel flapping on a windy day can also frighten a dog.

Using a broom to sweep your path, lifting a washing line prop or using a hosepipe could terrify a dog who has experienced abuse.

Your dog also might attempt to escape to chase a cat, search for food, locate a female dog on heat or they might just want to explore their new neighbourhood!

Some dogs arrive confident and happy to explore your house and garden, for other dogs stepping over the threshold of a doorway and entering your garden can be terrifying and overwhelming.

Dogs who are very fearful of humans and narrow doorways might choose to go up and over or squeeze under a fence rather than choosing the obvious exit / escape routes us humans might expect!

Until you get to know each other, please supervise your dog in your garden at all times. Try to look at your home and garden from your dog’s point of view.

Many people are shocked that a dog could escape from what they considered a secure garden. Even large dogs can get through very small spaces!

How to keep your dog safe:

Supervise your dog in your garden and if he is comfortable wearing a harness, a long line attached to a non slip harness* will keep your dog safe and allow him to explore your garden in a relaxed way.

Please don’t use a tether as unsupervised dogs can get tangled and panic. They can also chew through rope and leather leads in seconds if determined.

Check your garden boundaries regularly, especially after strong winds.

Supervise your dog closely when visitors are entering and exiting your property. Make sure your doors and gates are shut securely, don’t rely on others!

Ensure your dog doesn’t have access to potential hazards such as slug pellets, poisonous plants and bird fat balls.

Make sure your dog wears an ID tag and that his microchip is updated immediately he is in your care.

Research canine body language so you can understand how your dog is feeling and what he is communicating to you.

When you have established a good bond and relationship with your dog you will gradually get to know what might worry them and what might motivate them to escape, but this takes time.

Take things very slowly so you don’t overwhelm him. Every dog is an individual, so please take extra care to keep your dog safe in those first few weeks and months.

* Link to list of non slip harnesses:
https://www.facebook.com/caringforstreetdogs/photos/a.1741442559483964/1843899465904939?type=3&sfns=mo

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