07/03/2024
One of the things I squeeze into my life is volunteering with the Scouts. Both of my sons have greatly benefited from their involvement with the Boy Scouts of America (which is now co-ed, and changing their name)
I am a Dog Care merit badge counselor, and the youth leadership decided to offer that for the next few weeks. I like to take an interactive approach with the youth, so as part of talking about the importance of training in responsible pet ownership, as well as the proper equipment to obedience train a dog, I decided to shape the kids into a behavior with my clicker.
Based on the surly response I got at home from this idea, I had a back up plan. But the kids couldn't have been more enthusiastic to have their turn as "the dog".
It's so fascinating to watch them learn and try and figure out what I was clicking for. Some of them thought they could just guess what I was after, some of them took a while to let go of their idea and focus on where they were getting clicked.
In all cases, there was a spot where we were honing in on "it", where they would ask me what I was after and try and figure it out, but I was tight lipped. Then they would go back to just listening for the clicks and allowing it to unfold. Shortly after they let that go, they usually got "it".
I could probably write a book just about these interactions, but what I want to touch on today is trusting the process.
The kids were being "trained" in this story, but their struggle to just trust the process and wait for the outcome to come to you is also reflected in the people I work with who are on the "trainer" side.
It goes well starting out and change is made. Then as the changes come slower and are less obvious, uncertainty builds, thinking and doubt bubble up, and in this moment it becomes tempting to want to change the approach- increase the pressure, switch to an easier outcome, go get another tool, etc.
If you stay on course, and trust the process, you may be surprised at how quickly it comes together after the wave of doubt passes over you.