
02/19/2025
Recently I have been listening to some podcasts with other horsewomen and it has been inspiring and educating.
Thinking a lot about what’s next…
After losing Flame in September and completely retiring Wilson it became obvious to me that the days of teaching horseback riding lessons using my own horses had really come to an end. These 2 horses are the reason my little “at home” business was successful. These 2 Black Horses that ended up with me changed my whole family’s life also…those boys are one and million and I owe them everything. Betty and Bingo are wonderful but they are not suitable for the kids and the beginner rider that had been my main bread and butter since 2012.
Again, life changing circumstances make you who you are today.
I let my last student go in January… As I write I am thinking of all the horses we have owned over the past 20 years…the good, the bad and the terrible and so happy that as my knowledge grew and as I bettered myself, better horses came into my life.
The journey along the way with Frannie was one of unexpected success and heartache. She taught me to stick with things and not give up…she was difficult at times and could be quite a handful but over time we did become good friends…unfortunately selling her to someone did not turn out well and by the grace of God she landed in a wonderful home with my friend. I won’t ever sell another one of my horses again…
You can’t always know what the right thing to do is.
Of course, Betty and Bingo have their own special place with me, and they will be with me hopefully until the end…
Psalm 37:4 “Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart “
Who would have thought that I could train a horse? It seemed like this far off unimaginable thing that only someone who was more knowledgeable than me could do. One day I had the thought that I did not know anything about children either and my 2 kids sure did turn out well. Just like raising kids you have your ups and downs but if you commit 100%, things do turn out pretty good.
Bingo is kind and obedient and makes anyone look good who rides him. He floats across the ground at the trot and his lope is smooth and easy. Flying lead changes used to be this unthinkable maneuver to me…Bingo can do them like he is skipping along. HE taught me how to do that well…again the lessons with a good teacher make all the difference!
Having him recover completely after his foot fracture has been such a blessing. I know what I have in him as my horsepal that I don’t want to take that for granted. I also know what he is and what he is not…The dream of owning an amazing show horse is gone and replaced with the reality that I own a very nice horse. A horse that will pretty much do anything I ask and is happy about it, we can go to the forest and get lost in the trees, or he can come to a clinic with me and help other horses learn that being calm and quiet is a good thing. He helps me show others how to do the most basic maneuvers that someone may need to learn.
The reality is he is not a cow horse or a reining horse, so those things are not on the horizon to accomplish. Maybe one day I will have a horse like that…but for now…I sure am happy with what I do have.
Because I do make money with horses, I am subject to ride in the open classes which require a lot more than I can do, more than my horse can do…so that is ok, concentrate on what we can do. (referring to cattle work)
Sure, I may still go to a local show occasionally, which is always fun with friends. However, my focus has changed…no longer feeling the need to chase that buckle or blue ribbon. (Not that I was some big winner) The need to prove that I CAN DO THIS is passing as I am aging, and more important ideas are coming to the surface. I do finally realize what I have done over the past 20 years with horses and people, I am humbly aware of God’s grace that he has given me to be so fortunate to get to live this life. At times it is so important to really understand where you are in life. This horse journey of mine has been one of the best things that I have done…reflecting I know it was what I was meant to do.
So, what’s next?
I am concentrating on doing clinics to help others really understand their horse, how to ride well and be the best they can be with their horse friend.
Recently I was unfortunately reminded that not everyone is prepared for when things go wrong. I want to help folks prepare for that scenario and try to keep them as safe as possible. Building confidence in the rider by establishing routine with their horse is key to understanding the horse human relationship.
How does my life affect others? How do others affect mine?
What’s important? Is what I am doing completely stressing me out, but I do it because I think I must?
Where are you doing with your life?
Sharing knowledge with people is one of the best things we as humans can do…I still take lessons and want to keep learning as long as I am living.
Riding with Brannaman again this spring is an exciting thought of course and I have lots I need help with…
If someone would have told my 37-year-old self 20 years ago, the path I would be on today I think that young lady would not have believed it. Life is so good…
So, here’s to new things as we become older and wiser and more educated…
- kms 2025