04/16/2025
What No One Tells You About Doing This For Real
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When I was younger, I knew this life was going to be hard.
But if I’m being honest… I didn’t know what “hard” really meant.
I thought it meant working hard. Showing up early. Staying late. Riding the green horses. Teaching the lessons. Doing the things nobody else wanted to do.
And to be fair — that is part of it.
But that’s not the hard part.
The hard part is realizing that work ethic alone isn’t the golden ticket.
The hard part is realizing that some people are going to get there faster than you — not because they worked harder or wanted it more — but because their timeline was built different from the start.
The hard part is realizing that sometimes the best rider doesn’t win — the best-funded one does.
The hard part is falling off the first two of six and still having to get on four more.
It’s taking your top horse to the vet in the morning and getting a career-ending diagnosis… and then teaching a lesson that afternoon like nothing happened.
It’s going home to your $400 horse while scrolling Instagram and watching someone else your age (or younger) cantering around a 4* on one they didn’t have to make themselves.
And it’s not bitterness. It’s not jealousy.
It’s just real.
It’s sitting in the reality that some people were given a map — and you had to build yours from scratch.
Nobody told me how lonely it would feel sometimes.
Nobody told me how weird it feels to want to be happy for everyone else’s success — and still have to sit with that ache in your chest that whispers, “When is it my turn?”
Nobody told me that loving horses wouldn’t be enough.
That I’d have to learn patience. Business. Communication. Marketing. Boundaries. Mental toughness. Money management. Self-awareness. And about a million other things that had nothing to do with riding.
But here’s the other thing nobody told me:
Staying power is a skill, too.
The people who stick around long enough — long enough to get good, long enough to figure it out, long enough to become undeniable — they find their way.
It might not look like I thought it would.
My life with horses might shift and change a thousand times.
But I know for sure — there’s nothing else for me but this life.
Hard doesn’t scare me anymore.
I just had to learn what real hard actually was.
And honestly?
I think I’m better for it.