10/15/2025
This!
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Borrowed from 2 breeders - so very very true. Be careful what you wish forâŚ.
Borrowed:
No breeder escapes this moment: the phone buzzes a few days after a puppy leaves, with a message you could almost recite by heart:
âWe love him, butâŚâ
Ah, the infamous but.
But he barks. But he nips. But he cries at night. But heâs âtoo energetic.â
In short, heâs alive. And for some, thatâs already too much.
A puppy isnât a living stuffed animal or a personal antidepressant. Itâs a baby mammal, uprooted from its maternal world, thrown into the unknown. It will bark, cry, explore, and stressâand thatâs normal.
Modern humans, however, donât like disturbance. They want everything fast: their coffee, their phone, even their puppyâs âadaptation.â They forget a puppyâs brain is still learning emotional regulation through experience, not downloads or miracle TikTok tricks.
So overwhelmed families write: âHeâs adorable, but heâs not for us.â Translation: We wanted a dog without the challenges of a puppy.
Even the best-raised puppies are still learning. They arrive ready to learn to love, not pre-programmed to love. And learning requires time, consistency, and emotional steadinessâqualities many humans no longer possess.
Some confuse the perfect puppy with the compliant puppyâobedient to their schedule, whims, or noise tolerance. When that fails, blame follows: the breeder, the breed, the dogâs âcharacter.â And suddenly normal puppy behavior becomes a âproblem.â
Breeders absorb it all, taking back puppies âreturned due to lifestyle incompatibility,â re-socializing them, and repairing broken bonds. They brush trembling little muzzles and remind themselves: humans think they can adopt without adapting.
Living with a puppy is chaos before harmony. Itâs the noise, the smells, the nips, the accidents, the doubts. Itâs biology, not magic.
A puppy isnât a test, a trial, or a gift. Itâs a living commitment. What it becomes depends on you: balanced if you are, anxious if you are.
And if youâre not ready to give up your slippers and certainties for a few months? Adopt a plant instead. It rarely chews your shoes, and it doesnât cry at night.
â Eva VanLoo