09/01/2023
Wise words here.
We see this issue over and over. Dogs who have behavior issues who’ve been taught all manner of cool looking obedience stuff, but have zero ability to shut it all off and simply relax/turn off.
You don’t have to look far to see the countless examples of humans in your life who use motion (physical body movement, talking etc.), constant activity (work, scrolling, never ending social activities, exercise junkies etc.), and of course all manner of bad habits (alcohol, drugs, food, shopping etc.)… all to help them avoid the busy and uncomfortable mind they’re stuck with because they haven’t done the work to learn how to healthily turn it off.
Our dogs are of course far more simple, and far less crafty in the ways they camouflage their issues, but camouflage they do, and if you’re encouraging it through constant play, constant motion-oriented training, and constant stimulation, you can’t be surprised when your dog is a camouflaging master who not only is unable to be calm/still/relaxed when needed, but who also almost certainly has other seemingly unrelated behavior issues which are absolutely related—you just don’t see how.
Which is why we focus so much on both sides of the coin—and often for the highly anxious ones, we focus even more on the stillness/off-switch than anything else. Learning to see what your dog, or the dog you’re training truly needs, rather than just blindly following training traditions or what the cool kids have to say, is the first step. Then, do a little test: simply check and see if you teach your dog Place or a Downstay if they can actually hold it, with distractions and life going on around them, without melting down with shaking, whining, obsessive licking/chewing, and without constant breaking.
And if you do decide to focus on training your dog how to be calm and relaxed and still, check in in a few weeks or so and see if some of the behavior issues you were struggling with have simply disappeared. My guess is that you’ll be very surprised. We see this all the time.
Remember, a dog who can perform all the obedience work flawlessly, but who cannot be calm, still, and relaxed flawlessly, is a dog who is trained in a very superficial and lopsided fashion. A fashion which serves the owner’s perception of accomplishment, but does not serve the dog’s needs.