Serendipity Dressage

Serendipity Dressage We offer lessons, horse training, and clinics that help riders and horses reach their full potential.

By combining classical training tenets, a deep understanding of biomechanics, and a life-long love for horses, we help you ride with joy! At Serendipity Dressage, we are dedicated to the art of Dressage; our passion is teaching riders to be their personal best and training horses towards excellence. Whether you are a beginner or an Advanced rider, we offer customized training programs to help you

achieve your goals, as well as improve communication between you and your horse. Using a combination of theory, innovative visualization and demonstration, Stephany teaches to a variety of learning styles, helping each rider reach their full potential.

Amazing and well said - thank you!!
03/23/2025

Amazing and well said - thank you!!

I was reminded of a lesson the vast majority of the horse world - myself included, as it turns out - needs to hear again and again and again.

A couple days ago, for the first time, my husband attempted to bake a cake. Not just any cake, but a cake that I have made probably 100 times during the time we've been together, and a cake that while fairly simple can be finicky if not done right. I know the recipe for this cake by heart: I could make it in my sleep. To me, it's as comfortable as the back of my hand.

My husband came to me after he pulled it out of the oven. Pan in hand, he approached my workstation, held out his creation and asked tentatively "does it look okay?"

It didn't. It hadn't risen enough and was a bit overdone. I knew immediately he'd either not whipped his egg whites enough or overworked the batter. I felt myself mentally prepare to inform him of his errors.

And then I stopped.

What good would telling him what he did wrong do? He'd made an effort - a huge one, given he'd never done something like this before - and despite being apprehensive, he'd done it anyway. The cake wasn't the prettiest thing ever, but it would be perfectly edible.

This tendency to jump to point out mistakes is a fault of mine. I've been working on it for years. I need to keep working, it seems. It's still too close to the surface for my comfort, too quick to rear its head and attempt to assert false confidence. It's a cover, most often, for insecurity, an emotion that many of us quickly want to hide with bravado, critique and condemnation. It seems to me to be as human a thing as having hair on our heads and noses on our face.

The equine community is notorious for its railbirds. They can be found on social media, in the barn aisles, lurking on chat forums and sitting in grandstands. Everyone has something to say about what you're doing and how you're doing it. We are more inclined to notice the things someone did "wrong" than what they did well. We hardly ever notice when they tried. We carry this into how we approach the horse, too: quick to condemn mistakes before the horse even knows he made one. Slow to praise for a job well done, and even slower to praise for an attempt in the right direction.

The irony is neither horse nor human learn well and get better by focusing on mistakes. Confidence comes from a willingness to try and faith that you might succeed, but you can't develop the latter unless you do a lot of the former...and doing a lot of the former opens one up to criticism.

And criticizing one who is trying says a lot more about you than it does about them. If you can do nothing else, be kind. Walking away is an option, too. Your thoughts won't get you into trouble if they stay within the confines of your mind, but they may be sharper and harsher than you realize to someone who is trying their best to do better.

This is a well thought out break down of how a lesson should be arranged. Not only does it give the rider and horse time...
03/19/2025

This is a well thought out break down of how a lesson should be arranged. Not only does it give the rider and horse time to acclimate to their surrounding, it gives the instructor time to decide what is actually needed for that particular combination, rather than teaching a rote lesson from someone else’s play book. Allowing the instructor time to sit on the horse only highlights their plan, as there are times when a rider does well enough to cover up an existing problem without actually solving it.

I wanted to share our latest interview on the Dressage Today podcast - we interview Suzanne DeStefano, a Feldenkrais pra...
03/19/2025

I wanted to share our latest interview on the Dressage Today podcast - we interview Suzanne DeStefano, a Feldenkrais practitioner and dressage rider and trainer. Join us as we delve into the interesting world of Feldenkrais, what it is, what is does, and how it can make changes in any rider!
Take a listen!

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You know that clinic you heard nothing about because I didn’t post because it filled before I knew it?!  Well, we are st...
02/25/2025

You know that clinic you heard nothing about because I didn’t post because it filled before I knew it?!

Well, we are starting today. Mary Wanless is back at Serendipity Dressage at the beautiful Rough Diamond Ranch - the weather is fabulous, the riders are eager to learn…what more could we ask for?!

I had an incredible time today at this event!  I met so many wonderful women from different parts of the horse world, it...
01/27/2025

I had an incredible time today at this event! I met so many wonderful women from different parts of the horse world, it was inspiring to see how many varied careers exist in our horsey domain!

The presenters were amazing, funny and informative - I wanted to hang out with every one of them.

The food was terrific and plentiful, and I am still diving into my swag bags!

The best thing of all? Every single woman I met today was warm, interested in what I did and in sharing what they did, and there was no feeling of competition - just all of us enjoying our roles in the horse world.

Well done ladies! So glad I went!!
💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻

Ahhhh….horsemanship. It is everywhere, in every discipline…or is it?  Well, it should be. How’s your horsemanship?
01/17/2025

Ahhhh….horsemanship. It is everywhere, in every discipline…or is it?

Well, it should be.

How’s your horsemanship?

It’s all about physics! ❤️
01/10/2025

It’s all about physics! ❤️

Sitting behind the movement, is it correct? THM asked Carl Hester…
And the riders who sit behind the movement, particularly the ones with their shoulders back, they are never going to have self-carriage….
“No, because they are driving the horse down in front. If they sit too strong, behind the vertical, then they are pushing the horse down, through and into the hand. I was told by ‘Rocky’* when you go forward you bring your body forward and when you want to come back, you bring your body back. And it is amazing how most of us do the opposite to that. He always said to me, when you piaffe, you should be sitting over your knee, not sitting on your backside. Charlotte does that naturally, I have to remind myself to do it because I want to be too strong, but that is a really interesting little tip he gave me because piaffe, you get the feeling that you are driving, but in fact you should be sitting over your knee to let the horse use its back.”
http://www.horsemagazine.com/thm/2016/03/talking-dressage-with-carl-hester/

So true!! Leave your emotions at the job, in the car, wherever you can. And if you can’t, it is perfectly ok to get off ...
01/10/2025

So true!! Leave your emotions at the job, in the car, wherever you can. And if you can’t, it is perfectly ok to get off until you can get yourself organized again. Lead with a calm demeanor and they will be more likely to follow.

The Effect of a Nervous Human.... one of my favorite studies!

Researchers at the Swedish University of Agricultural Sciences looked at the effect of an increased heart rate in a human on the horse they were riding or handling.

Here's a link from the abstract... "Each horse–human pair walked or rode between points A and B (30 m) four times on each test occasion.

However, just before the fourth pass, participants were told that an umbrella⛱ would be opened as they rode, or led, the horse past the assistant.

The umbrella was not opened, so this pass was no different to the previous control occasions, but nevertheless there was an increase in HR for both the person AND the horse."

We affect our horses.

When looking at any training "issue", our first responsibility is to to know ourselves and explore if there's something we could do better.

Here's a link to the research article, unfortunately I couldn't find a full text version easily available online, but you can read the rest of the abstract here: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S109002330900121X?via%3Dihub

Points to ponder when thinking about your next mount…❤️
01/06/2025

Points to ponder when thinking about your next mount…❤️

There is a difference between a rider and a trainer…

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Serendipity Dressage offers lessons, horse training, and clinics that help riders and horses reach their full potential. By combining classical training tenets, a deep understanding of biomechanics, and a life-long love for horses, we provide a positive learning environment where horses and riders thrive.

Stephany Fish Crossman combines teaching and training into one harmonious package. She blends years of classical dressage training and a deep knowledge of biomechanics to produce horse and rider partnerships who are confident, competitive, athletic, and happy to do their jobs day-in, day-out.

And, by instilling proper horsemanship fundamentals and customized groundwork and mounted exercises, she ensures every rider she teaches and every horse she trains emerges one (or many!) step closer to their goals.

Learn more or book a clinic at serendipitydressage.net.