01/10/2024
On a rainy day hike with this lovely mare.
As we were hiking we heard a noise off in the trees, it sounded a bit like a fox screech and of course Isabella keyed in right where the sound was coming from. We stopped to look and saw a group of deer bouncing through the forest. This got me thinking…
Partnership verses leadership.
I don’t subscribe to the narrative that horses need us to be a strong leader. I think horse relationships are way more nuanced and dynamic than that. Horses are incredibly intelligent, have very good memories, much stronger instinct than most humans and hold awareness that I can only strive to build in my life time. I want to honor the horses I work with in what they bring to the table in leadership. For example , if I’m out on the trail I absolutely want my horse to have agency to tell me about something or someone coming up around us that I likely do not notice yet, then we figure out navigating the situation together. I think it is important that we remember what we are primarily doing with horses is asking them to participate in the human world in ways that suit us. So even in scenarios with horses we deem “ spooky” what we are really saying is that they are experiencing the environment in a way that doesn’t suit our needs. This is absolutely ok and essential to our safety to figure out but I do think it is important to recognize it is usually about our safety, not necessarily our horses. So what’s the point of this…? I believe it is our job as humans to learn to read expressions and signals from our horses. Spend time, ideally lots of time observing the horses we work with, get to know them, do our best to learn to understand them as individuals and build the relationship so when we ask them to do things with us, navigate with us, we can work from partnership instead of the idea that somehow as humans we are the leaders and for a horse to feel safe they need us to lead them. Do we need boundaries…absolutely, like any healthy relationship. Do we ask our horses to do things they maybe don’t necessarily want or would choose to do on their own… yes, again like most relationships. But I also advocate for the value and even importance in supporting thoughtful, intact, well rounded horses, that we give them chances to utilize their stellar leadership skills with us as well.