01/04/2026
Boundaries and Centerdness in Leading
Another specific place where boundaries create a relaxed and happy horse is leading.
When we attach a lead rope to a horse, we are putting parameters on where they can go. The misunderstanding of how to operate their body within the confines of a lead rope can create quite a bit of trouble for many horses, and I would call this problem of poor leading one of the most frequent ones I come across.
A lead rope’s purpose is to direct the horse’s body, feet and mind and everything in between, to a specific location in a specific way. It can tell a horse to go forward, right, left, stop, backwards, speed up, or slow down. If you didn’t know, your lead rope comes with quite a few very dynamic “settings,” if you don’t believe me just check the manual 😉
The problem for many with leading is the human, as in many instances in life, puts the halter on and begins mentally checking out, essentially dragging a sensitive and feeling animal around like a boulder on a rope. This removes all connection and sensitivity to the lead rope’s meaning to the horse. A lead rope’s meaning to a horse is the human’s responsibility to explain, which means, as I have said many times before and will say many times again- awareness. The human has to be aware of what the lead rope is doing and how it is affecting the horse.
A lead rope is not a dead piece of equipment used for a horse to drag a human around, or a human to drag a horse around. It is, to me, a living thing, used to transmit feeling back and forth between me and the horse, the horse and me. It is how I feel where they are and what they’re feeling. It’s how they feel where I am and what I’m feeling. It’s how one can begin teaching refined and essential concepts like straightness, and bend and half halts.
But for this lead rope to have meaning, it has to be used with intention- for many that is a struggle, myself included quite often. The amount of awareness and refinement possible through the lead rope often staggers me. Every time I think I have some idea of how to be refined with a lead rope, I find I have more to learn. As my teacher (who is an expert in all things feel and lead rope) Brent Graef Horsemanship would say, “how deep do you want to go?”
Photo by Jasmine Cope