Julie Bevers Coaching

02/25/2020

I haven’t posted here in wayyyyy too long!! Not because I don’t care, and not because I’m too busy!
I’ve been WORKING and serving and helping!!!
Believe me... I am HERE, AVAILABLE, and I truly want to HELP you!!!
Be Brave like Pooh. If you need HELP, I gotchu.

12/05/2019

12/04/2019

I'm answering this EVERY day!
Are you?!

11/29/2019

Cultivate a practice of GRATITUDE!

While I was in Illinois with my farmer-firefighter this past month, I intentionally took time each day to be in awe and gratitude. I especially focused on tiny details; the little things that I might have missed had I not been paying attention.

♥️ Noticing the wind moving through the trees and across the grass or fields of corn.
♥️ The feeling of expansion in my heart while looking at my husband as he laughed with our friends.
♥️ The noise of corn kernels being poured from the combine into the auger wagon.
♥️ Counting colors in the sky as the sun came up in the morning.
♥️ Marveling at the beauty of the sunset.
♥️ Sharing a meal with dear friends.
♥️ The fall of snowflakes, as they came down in what seemed like slow-motion.
♥️ The tractor chiseling the the field, stirring up the soil that had just nourished a crop of corn.
♥️ Prayers answered, just minutes after I had been praying.
♥️ HOT water pouring from a shower head, just with the turn of a k**b.
♥️ The scent and flavor of hot coffee, as the mug warmed my cold hands.

This short film is LOVELY, and totally worth a few minutes of your time.
https://vimeo.com/44131171

Let me know if you watch it, and also I’d love to hear about how YOU practice gratitude. ☺️

11/29/2019

These make me laugh out loud!

Life doesn’t have to be so hard, and we should DEFINITELY be laughing more.
Enjoy!

11/27/2019

We had a full day of travel ahead and I was giddy about getting this time with my guy.
I was looking forward to sitting next to him on an airplane and watching him look out the window. He LOVES flying, and I LOVE watching him process and appreciate the entire experience.

I looked over at him as we were heading to the airport and said, “I GENUINELY enjoy you.”
Beves: “I generally enjoy you, too!”

Ummmmm that’s not the same. 🤣🤣🤣
But it did make me laugh.
ENJOYING him is so much fun and he truly is my favorite!

What do you MOST enjoy about your spouse? What makes him or her your favorite?

Or friend, or family member? Or dog lol?!

11/22/2019

When I looked at this today, 3 words seemed to leap out at me and stop me in my tracks!

❤️PURPOSE
⚡️BREAKTHROUGH
🌟MIRACLES

I am a life coach. When people ask me how long I’ve been a coach, I tell them “All my life lol. But I’ve been certified and coaching professionally for more than 5 years.”

Purpose Defined: the reason for which something exists or is done, made, used, etc.
an intended or desired result; end; aim; goal.
determination; resoluteness.

I am certain I was created to help people. I’ve helped hundreds of people and want to help thousands more!! I cannot express my gratitude when people hire me and trust me and invite me to be in their corner!
Breakthrough and Miracles happen! Healing is available and suffering is optional.

Yes, PURPOSE, BREAKTHROUGH AND MIRACLES.

Who wants Miracles and Breakthrough?! 🙋🏼‍♀️

11/20/2019

We’d been together more than 26 years when we visited the Arch in St. Louis, and I never knew it was his FAVORITE landmark!

What’s something your spouse may not know about YOU?!
Ask them to share something that you may not know. 🤔

3 random facts about me....

•I LOVE getting older. Every year I feel more excited. I’ve been 45 for a month now, and it’s AWESOME!

•I only have 2 cousins and they are DOUBLE COUSINS!! I also have 3 brothers and 2 sisters. All of these Crazies are married to INCREDIBLE spouses, and I can’t believe how blessed we are to all have each other.

And my guy probably doesn’t know this about me.....

•my favorite activities in elementary school were playing “Beat The Clock” in math class and “Heads up, 7-up” on rainy days. Also, my 3rd grade teacher, Mr. Anderson, telling scary stories. 😬😂

Tell me a random fact about YOU!!!

11/19/2019

My word of the 2019 year is SERVE.

Do you have a word of the year?
My “word of the year” sets the intention and focus, and it’s a filtering/guidance system of sorts for me.

Every year, as I begin to pray over the year ahead and seek my new “word of the year”, I feel a little sad over the letting go of my current word.

I’m onto myself this time. I knew I’d want to hold onto “SERVE”, because it’s become my fave lol....just like all the other faves before it.
GRATITIDE ~forever a foundation for me.
CULTIVATE ~gahhhh that was a great one.
AVAILABLE ~ohhhh so many wonderful memories of how this played out.
BOLD ~still get goosebumps at the thoughts of how this shaped that year in my life.
And SERVE ~how I have LOVED this year of serving.

I have a pretty good idea of my word for the upcoming year.
And I don’t really leave the other words behind. They became a part of me and still guide me well.

What’s your current word (if you have one)? Do you already have your choice for the new year ahead?

11/06/2019

EVERY DAY this past week, I have talked with clients about being “not good enough” (their belief, not mine 😬!). Over and over, different women, with some variation of the same faulty belief.

They are saying things like:
If I was ”better”, this wouldn’t have happened....
If I had my crap together when he got home....
If the house was clean....
If I was a better cook...
If I would have encouraged him to hang out with his friends...
If I didn’t nag him so much....
If I lost weight....
If I didn’t freak out and scream when the kids weren’t listening to me....
If I didn’t bug him so much with stupid stuff while he was at work...
If I didn’t have so much family drama...
If I paid more attention to him (he wouldn’t be talking to her)...
If I was funnier and calmer and more spontaneous....
If I wanted s*x all the time...
if I wasn’t so moody...
If I wasn’t so needy...
If I didn’t argue with him....
If I actually did something with my hair or put on makeup...
If I wasn’t so lazy and tired all the time....
If I wasn’t so messed up and crazy....
If I didn’t have anxiety and stress or worry so much....
If I was nicer to his mom (siblings, coworkers, friends)....
If I wouldn’t have spent so much money....

Suddenly I FELT the pain of those beliefs. The feelings of not being good enough. My own memories popped up so quickly and powerfully that it took my breath away. My stomach flipped upside-down as the MEMORIES from so many years ago felt like it was happening to me now!

While these memories are not exactly an enjoyable experience or a place I want to dwell, I’m thankful.
The contrast of the pain from the past amplifies the JOY and LOVE I feel in the present.

My clients are truly incredible women, and I’m baffled that they could believe for a minute that they aren’t “enough”.
I’m so grateful that I know how to solve for this and my people trust me to guide them!

Today I am reminded that ANYTHING is possible.

Ps. One of my all time favorite songs was playing in my head as I typed this, so I gotta share!

https://youtu.be/7Bi7t1ybMVs

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10/28/2019

On Sunday afternoon it seemed like fire was all around us.

Major wildfires in California, paired with howling winds, had engines and fire crews being deployed from all over.

Grass fires were popping up around our region, and the wind was not calming anytime soon.

Several of my siblings, and so many friends, had power shut off to their homes.
My younger brother and his wife even did an emergency drill with their kids and packed up vehicles, leaving them packed up and ready to roll just in case.

As I prayed for our state, first responders, and all people affected, I walked around my home thinking about what I would pack, should I ever be evacuated in an emergency.

Dang, we have A LOT of stuff.

However, there’s not much of it that I would be desperate to save. As sentimental as I am, I was a little surprised by the things that really matter to me as I walked around my home.
I mean, don’t get me wrong, I would be SO VERY SAD to lose my home and everything in it (Don’t get excited, Beves, I’m not gonna start throwing out all the things!! You’re still coming home from Illinois next month to a cluttered, messy house 🤣🤣).

But the things that I truly love aren’t really things.
❤️My time with Jesus, and a mug of hot coffee. Love, Relationships, and Gratitude and Connection. Music, Laughter, and Hugs. Happiness and Joy. Being Alive. ❤️

As far as “stuff”....
🥰My Dad’s Bible. It’s beautiful, and was given to me by my momma after my dad died.
A family album from Grandma Bevers. A wedding gift made by my Grandpa (overseen by my grandmother lol). Perhaps our “you are special” plate we use for birthdays and celebrations. And our backup hard drive with family photos and video. Our children’s bronzed handprints. Important documents.
📚I love books. LOVE LOVE. And I have a bunch of them. But even those can be replaced.
💖I REALLY like my little car. The story behind it (y’all know I love a good story) and everything about it.

Do you all have an evacuation plan in case of emergency? What would you grab?!!

*sidenote: if I needed to evacuate immediately, my people and pets are all that I’d REALLY care about. Yes, even the reptiles lol 😂

10/28/2019

On my playlist today “Scars (Come with Livin’)”.

TobyMac wrote this song a couple of years ago for his 21 year-old son, Truett (who died this past week).

It’s powerful and so very true.

When life cuts so deep
Try and remember
You are not alone
We've all been there
Scars come with livin'
You are not alone
We've all been there (been there, been there, oh), oh
So lift your head, lift your head
Lift your head to where your help comes from
Yeah, you, you're not alone
We've all been there
Scars come with livin'

❤️

10/28/2019

Before & After

I woke up today to a text from Beves and I’ve been thinking about just how far we’ve come!

BEFORE: A few years ago, Beves was in Illinois for harvest, working long hours and learning new things and didn’t have time to call home and connect.

While he was away, I decided to put myself on the schedule as on-call chaplain pretty much around the clock. I don’t remember specifically what callouts I had, but I do remember it being REALLY busy. Children died. Suicides. Death notifications for the Coroner’s Office. Lots of people in Trauma and Crisis, and truly I loved serving them.
BUT, day after day went by and Beves wasn’t there to support me like he normally did. It began to wear on me. I had other people that I could have reached out to, but I didn’t want to talk to anyone else.

I wanted my husband. My partner. When and if he did call me, he was tired and distracted and it seemed like he was only calling me out of obligation.

I became SO mad at him for being unavailable to me. I remember thinking about how much I NEEDED him and he was not there for me. I felt like a single parent to our kids. It seemed like everything was falling apart or breaking down all around our house. My brain started spewing questions like: What kind of guy just picks up and leaves his family for weeks and barely even checks in? What’s the point of being married anyways?

Fast forward to today. I’m sitting here feeling grateful for the clear memory of how awful that all felt! The contrast of my BEFORE and AFTER is darkness to LIGHT!

Currently (my “AFTER”): Beves is in Illinois and I’m missing him, but not in a sad and needy way like I used to.
It’s not because it’s sunshine and unicorns here. Within the first few days of him leaving, our dryer broke and SEVERAL kitchen drawers broke (freaking random!!). Our 8yr old boxer dog isn’t feeling well and seems to be aging rapidly by the day.
And my heart broke and I cried every day this past week as 8 firefighters around the country died by su***de.

You know what did NOT break? ME.
Also not broken, or even maimed, is my connection to my husband. Even when he doesn’t have time to chat!!

Ohhhhhh what a difference!!
THIS is why I am a coach. My own BEFORE and AFTER, and now helping other fire families with THEIR before and after.

My mission to help others is stronger and clearer than ever.