05/09/2022
Horses changed my life 💜
Here’s something about connecting with your horse that may surprise you… 👀
Or maybe you’ve already lived it out and you resonate with this entirely 🌀
It can appear to us at first that 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 with the horse is all about interacting with him in the right way, doing the right exercises, or reading body language.
When Maddy set out on her horsemanship journey, she was fully focused on the animal 🐴 She studied countless trainers, worked with lots of horses, and developed her skill set 💫
She was surprised to find that, in order to truly connect with horses… she had to connect with herself, too.
In fact, she found that her connection to her horses was a direct reflection to her relationship with herself 👁
Consider this 〰️
🌀 If you feel ashamed of having fear and don’t realize it (maybe after a lifetime of conditioning that fear is wrong, makes you weak/dramatic/dependent, etc)… how can you see a horse’s unwanted behaviors as fear reactions *not* disrespect — and then approach her with empathy, acceptance and patience?
🌀 If you have rage you’ve suppressed your whole life due to your boundaries being violated long ago… How can you see your horse’s behavior as *morally* neutral, just unwanted, when she makes you feel unsafe? How could you not lash out?
🌀 When things don’t go as planned, how can you simply take that as feedback for where you can improve your training, when you unknowingly put your self-worth into how well you (and subsequently, your horse) perform?
This is just scratching the surface, but you get the idea 🧠
To connect with your horse, you need to 𝘴𝘦𝘦 her, for who she is. But she will trigger you. And if you lack awareness in your triggers, you’ll project that onto her. You won’t be able to see her clearly, and the connection will be lost.
To connect with your horse, you’ll need empathy for her, which begins with having empathy for YOU. Which often comes from understanding yourself.
This is *not* about perfection. It’s about awareness, acceptance, and empathy for yourself… and therefore, your horse ✨
How have horses taught you to connect to Self? Share in the comments, we’d LOVE to know ♥️