06/03/2025
There are a lot of ideas floating around on social media about what makes a good horse.
Some folks think the faster you apply pressure, the faster you’ll get results. That if a horse gets scared, they’ll “learn to deal with it.” Or worse, that if someone well known does it, it must be right.
I’m going to share something I never thought I would that 100% pertains to where I stand. I’m not sharing this for pity but rather for the perspective of the other side of the whip.
I grew up in a house where abuse, both physical and verbal, was normal. I know what it feels like to be beat, berated, pressured, scared, and shut down. That doesn’t make you reliable. It doesn’t make you strong. It just makes you quiet and at the time resentful of the person putting you through it.
However I was very fortunate in one way. Every other weekend, I went to my dad’s place. That was my safe haven. A place where I was built up, not torn down. A place where I was shown that trust doesn’t come from fear. It comes from belief. That’s where I started to understand what it means to be treated like you matter.
That contrast shaped everything for me. Especially how I handle horses.
So no, I don’t believe in overwhelming a horse to make them “trustworthy.”
I don’t believe in force disguised as leadership and I won’t follow a method just because it’s popular especially if it doesn’t feel right to me.
I was once told, “Come on, you know we all do it.” Well… No, we don’t all do it and we shouldn’t blur the lines just to feel better about doing the wrong thing.
It wasn’t pressure that built me back up. It was patience, and someone who gave a damn about my perspective. I ride and train with that same philosophy.
I’ve pulled out of so many of the Mustang competitions that I’ve entered because I won’t put a horse in a situation they’re not mentally ready for. Not because they couldn’t do it, but because they weren’t there yet mentally.
I’m not in this to win ribbons or build a brand on fast results. If taking the time to do it right costs me business then so be it. I can sleep at night knowing the horse came first.
It’s not about being soft. It’s about being honest.
It’s also NOT about avoiding pressure. It’s about knowing how to use it with purpose rather than punishment.
I’ve been on the receiving end of training that breaks you down instead of building you up and that’s not something I want to be a part of.
📸:Feline Klaus