12/10/2025
There’s a narrative in the dog world suggesting that boundaries, manners, impulse control, and rules are unnecessary because they are “human constructs,” and that if we simply meet needs, enrich the environment, reduce pressure, and offer choice, dogs will naturally regulate themselves.
It is a comforting concept.
It is also incomplete.
Ethology shows us that structure is natural.
Dogs practice boundaries with one another through spatial pressure, yielding, turn taking, controlled access to resources, and ritualized de-escalation. These are not human inventions. They are innate social regulation systems. When we teach dogs to wait, to pause, to give space, or to follow direction, we are not imposing artificial rules. We are aligning human environments with the dog’s natural regulatory patterns.
“Just meet the needs” isn’t an auto fix it.
Welfare matters.
Pain matters.
Enrichment matters.
Choice matters.
But these alone do not create regulation.
A dog can have every need met and still be unable to cope with novelty, frustration, pressure, or arousal.
A real example from my behavior cases:
I worked with clients who own acres of wooded land. Their dogs had constant freedom. Fresh air, wildlife, water access, endless enrichment, unlimited movement, and total choice. It was, by all standards, exceptional welfare.
Yet the moment the owners wanted to take the dogs camping, everything unraveled.
New people, confined spaces, unfamiliar dogs, changing routines, and reduced predictability triggered:
• reactivity
• frantic scanning
• inability to settle
• explosive responses to noise and novelty
These dogs had excellent welfare.
What they did not have was regulatory skill.
Because welfare alone does not teach:
• yielding
• pausing
• arousal shifts
• disengagement
• handling frustration
• sharing tight spaces
• accepting constraints
Freedom without these skills does not produce stability.
It produces overwhelm.
Management and enrichment cannot replace regulation training
A popular example is:
“If your dog jumps or barks while you prepare their meal, toss treats on a snuffle mat.”
A snuffle mat can prevent rehearsal, but it does not produce skill.
The moment the snuffle mat is gone, the behavior returns because the dog has not learned how to regulate arousal around food preparation.
Redirecting is not teaching.
Distraction is not impulse control.
Management is not regulation.
Enforcing boundaries is not punishment
This is one of the most misunderstood parts of the conversation.
A boundary is information.
Boundaries tell the dog what is safe, what is expected, and what is appropriate. Dogs use boundaries with each other constantly through space-taking, blocking, pausing, and delayed access. These are natural, stabilizing behaviors.
When we uphold a boundary, we are not “dominating” or “controlling.” We are creating predictability. Predictability lowers stress, prevents conflict, and supports emotional regulation.
A dog who understands boundaries is not restricted.
A dog without boundaries is unregulated.
Calling boundaries “punishment” misunderstands both canine social structure and the needs of dogs living in human environments.
A personal example: capability…
I manage my own environment well, and I rarely leave accessible food out when I’m gone. Keep an honest dog honest.
But recently I accidentally left a piece of chocolate cake on the coffee table and left for hours.
When I came home, it was untouched.
Not because my dogs lacked opportunity.
Because they have been taught that access does not equal permission.
That level of reliability does not come from enrichment alone.
It does not come from choice alone.
It comes from structured learning that develops genuine impulse control and internal regulation.
The bigger idea is this..
Welfare is mandatory.
Need fulfillment is essential.
Enrichment is essential.
Choice is valuable.
But none of these replace:
• teaching boundaries
• teaching regulation
• teaching inhibition
• teaching arousal shifts
• teaching coping skills
• teaching how to function in human environments
**Welfare without structure produces overwhelm.
Structure without welfare produces suppression.
Dogs need both.**
Freedom is not the starting point.
Freedom is the outcome of a dog who has been taught how to use freedom safely.
Boundaries do not limit dogs.
Boundaries equip them.
**pic of my dogs and our kitten during our meal time ritual. Everyone comes in and lays down while we cook our meal and prepare their meal. A simple boundary was taught, no need for tossing food onto a snuffle mat to distract them**