03/08/2025
Wisdom Wednesday! Let's talk about the the ever popular word: “No!”. It is a common human response to loudly say or shout “No!” when our dogs present any undesired behavior. This is commonly a first issue that I address with many people. What is the problem with telling your dog “No!”? Three reasons:
1. “No!” is not teaching your dog a desired behavior. Saying or shouting “No!” is interrupting a behavior. Therefore, giving people a false reinforcement that their dog knows what “No!” means.
2. “No!” interrupts a behavior when you are present to see or hear it happening. The end result is that your dog waits until you are out of proximity that you will not see or hear them. Your dog is working on the premise that x behavior is safe when you are not in proximity.
3. “No!” scares a dog and can damage your relationship with him or her. A damaged relationship with your dog can be one of him or her being fearful of you, shut down, possible aggression issues can occur.
What do you do rather than saying or shouting “No!” at their dog’s undesired behavior?
• Be proactive by managing his or her environment (gates to block access to restricted areas, go for outings and walks during off-peak times of day, close window coverings, put shoes and other objects away, etc.).
• Teach your dog alternate behaviors that help both your dog and you to remain under your emotional thresholds including auto check-ins, four on the floor, triggers become cues to check in with you, etc.
• Understand your dog’s reinforcement history to understand why a behavior continues to recur. A primary example is your dog has stolen socks on multiple occasions. In most cases, a dog stealing socks results in a game of chase and keep away. A game of chase and keep away is highly reinforcing to a dog – this is fun. The to do here is to keep socks and other high value (your dog’s thought) out of your dog’s reach or close off access to rooms where there are high value objects.
• Teach your dog the “Leave it” cue to prevent him or her from getting into or taking objects that he or she should not be engaging with. Keep in mind that teaching the “Leave it” cue is a step-by-step process that needs to be taught. Saying “Leave it” may interrupt a behavior, but unless your dog has been taught the cue; he or she does not know what it means.
This week’s wisdom is to stop, breathe, and regroup to help you refrain from saying or shouting ”No!” One time of “No!” can escalate into multiple times resulting in increased frustration for you and your dog and/or possibly damaging your relationship with your canine family member. The goal is two-fold:
• Prevent perpetuating an endless cycle of frustration for your dog and you.
• Reduce your stress by practicing human impulse control. Who doesn’t want less stress in their life?
Above all else, take care of each other, be your dog’s teammate, and work together.