08/31/2023
There is a huge misconception of what boundaries are because of this term being used incorrectly in the dog training industry.
Yes boundaries are absolutely essential for all dogs.
No boundaries do not have anything to do with corrections, punishment or being a pack leader, because we all know dogs do not actually live in packs and arenāt pack animals (big red flag if someone uses those terms as they donāt know what their talking about).
Boundaries for dogs are no different then they are for children. Children also need boundaries for their safety.
Hereās a great example: You wouldnāt let your child pick up a sharp knife and start running around with it, and If it happened by accident you would calmly and lovingly but firmly explain why this is not appropriate and how dangerous it is.
When our dog does something highly inappropriate or unsafe we need to let them know.
Hereās a great example of how I set a loving boundary with one of my own dogs. When my dog was younger and my cats would play fight, she would run in there and break them up. So next time the cats played and I saw her get up, I stepped in front of her and said in my serious mom voice āwe donāt harass the cats okā and then I encouraged her with my body language to follow me back to where she had been lying down and I thanked her for understanding, then I gave her some love and cuddles.
Does this mean she never got excited and tried again? No it never means our dog will never try the thing again, it means we need to remind them and support them until they get it. We canāt just set a boundary and forget it. Our dogs need our help!
Sometimes a boundary is putting the toy away if your dog jumps or barks at you. Sometimes itās closing the door if your dog tries to barge out.
In any case itās supportive not corrective.
Itās important to note that we canāt set boundaries when our dog is scared or in fight or flight like when they are barking at another dog and they are over aroused and unreachable, they need to be in a state to learn to be able to learn the boundary.