Riding Far, LLC

Riding Far, LLC Transformative Experiences for Horses and Riders All riders, regardless of experience or discipline, meet challenges along the way. Paul T. Haefner. in Physics.

Riding Far, LLC was founded over 20 years ago with a simple idea that riders could benefit from a better understanding of themselves, their horses, and how to create change. We help riders move through these challenges. This is more than your typical sport psychology or horse training. We have dedicated ourselves to create transformative experiences for equestrians and horses through compassionate

and expert education, mentorship and guidance. We meet every rider and horse where they are and create deeply personal and meaningful experiences. Our work inspires change where traditional approaches have often failed. We ground ourselves in an innovative integration of modern human psychology and horsemanship, drawing inspiration from a wide range of human psychological disciplines and the best of classical and modern horsemanship including equine ethology and biomechanics. We are passionate about our own personal and professional growth in order to bring our clients current, comprehensive, informed, and inspired guidance. PhD

Dr. Haefner is a licensed clinical and sport psychologist in private practice in Northern Virginia with more than 30 years of professional experience. In addition to his Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology, Dr. Haefner is a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist and a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-linguistic Programming. He also holds a B.S. In his practice, he provides personal/professional development, sport psychology consultation, and a broad range of other therapeutic services to adults, adolescents and children. An avid equestrian since his childhood, Dr. Haefner has combined his love for horses and lifelong equestrian experience with his knowledge of human psychology in order to help people transform themselves and their relationships with their horses. He enjoys working with riders of all levels and disciplines tackling the many and varied challenges that arise along the way. He helps riders transform self-doubt into confidence, fear into courage, distractibility into focused concentration, and pressure and anxiety into effective performance. In addition to helping people with their riding goals, Dr. Haefner uses the unique relationship between people and their equine partners to help people attain their own personal growth goals such as increased self-confidence, assertiveness, trust, intimacy and balance in relationships. Dr. Haefner is passionate about learning. He is committed to integrating newly acquired knowledge and skills into his work with riders. His most recent learning venture into interpersonal neurobiology has led to Riding Far to partner with Neurofficient to offer their clients neurofeedback brain training. Dr. Haefner is also a steadfast advocate for research in the field of human-horse interaction. He assisted in founding the Research Committee for the Equine Assisted Growth and Learning Association. He served on the Board of Directors of the Horses and Humans Research Foundation (HHRF), having been honored to serve as President of the Board for three of those years. He continues his advocacy for research through his role as Scientific Advisor for HHRF. Dr. Haefner is passionate about teaching. He has taught every age and level from kindergarten to graduate school. He has served on the staff/faculties of The Hill School, Catholic Memorial High School, The Fielding Institute, The Lab School of Washington, and The Catholic University of America. He dedicated to educating riding instructors and trainers, as well as riders, about the psychology of teaching and learning. His goal is to help instructors and trainers become more effective teachers and riders become more effective learners. Justin Haefner

Justin Haefner is a professional trainer who specializes in the training and handling of young performance jumpers. He is the full time Trainer of Young and Developing Horses at St. Bride’s Farm where he focuses on giving international caliber jumping horses the best foundation possible for their later life on the international show circuit. Justin believes it is essential to understand how horses’ bodies move and function in order to effectively train horses. In his continuous pursuit of deeper knowledge of equine physiology and biomechanics, Justin is a student at the Vluggen Institute of Equine Osteopathy and Education. Justin is also committed to transforming the experiences of horses and their riders through his work with Dr. Haefner in Riding Far, LLC. He contributes his knowledge of the horse’s psychology and physiology to create a well-rounded and unique perspective on the relationship between horse and rider. The synergistic, collaborative combination of Justin’s training and horsemanship experience with Dr. Haefner’s experience helping people change creates powerful opportunities for riders to transform their relationships with themselves and their horse in large and small ways. Justin comes from a background in vaquero style natural horsemanship, spending his childhood highly interested in creating and understanding deep connections with horses. Time spent starting young horses, foxhunting, and dabbling in many different disciplines gave him a base to understand key elements of a horse’s solid foundation. His focus on bodywork and anatomy/biomechanics goes hand in hand with his deep interest in classical dressage. His focus with every horse, no matter their discipline, is to gift them with strength of mind, body and emotion. Much of his work is based on the teaching and philosophy passed down by masters such as Nuno Oliveira. While patiently and steadfastly working to positively influence the equestrian world, Justin is deeply committed to continue his personal education. He hopes to return to Portugal where he spent time riding at the Centro Equestre Leziria Grande with the Valença’s, and continued lessons with Patrick King. His interests are in improving his own biomechanics and posture as a rider, as well as knowledge of horse and human physiology, training through classical philosophy, and further understanding and ability in equine bodywork.

01/20/2025

We want to say a huge thank you to Barb Sullivan and Oak Spring Equestrian, LLC for welcoming us at these shows last year! The community is full of kind and inclusive people, and we are honored to now be a part of this group.

Is the weather affecting your horse and life plans for the week?  Could setting an intention make a difference?This week...
01/20/2025

Is the weather affecting your horse and life plans for the week? Could setting an intention make a difference?
This week Justin intends to respect the weather but not let it define him.
Dr Paul intends to embrace learning and also "get sh*t done".

01/20/2025

Casually Chaotic Conversation

Psych Saturday: Letting Go to Take ControlWe are working on a project this winter to build resources for riding instruct...
01/18/2025

Psych Saturday: Letting Go to Take Control

We are working on a project this winter to build resources for riding instructors. In the process, I have had a whole crap ton of thoughts and feelings. “Who am I to think I have something to offer people?” “This will never be good enough.” “This needs to be perfect.” Anxiety, mild panic, feeling frozen, … I know that many of you know these feelings intimately because you have shared them with me. And, we have worked together to move through and beyond them.

For me it felt like a tug-of-war with my angst. In between us, a pit of despair. The cost of losing this war was just that, falling into that pit. I felt drawn to all the vital tasks of our work and our projects. But, I had to fight that tug-of-war first. It felt like everything else depended on me winning that war. Then it hit me… let go. I can’t be pulled in if I am not holding onto that rope.

Our minds are tricky things. My angst certainly did not give up that easily. It repeatedly offers me that rope to engage yet again in that tug-of-war. Tempting as it is to reengage in old familiar patterns and responses to the invitation, I commit to letting go in order to take control. I commit to choosing a different response. ~ Paul

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Training a horse out of fear is the same as pouring the foundation of water in the dead of winter and building a house o...
01/17/2025

Training a horse out of fear is the same as pouring the foundation of water in the dead of winter and building a house on the ice.

What you build might actually be pretty nice. A finished house, plumbed and painted. But it is inevitable that no matter how long the winter, spring will come and fear will thaw and no matter how nice the house, it will crumble.
~ Justin

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01/16/2025

Artie update! He has settled in very well and we are taking our time bringing him along under saddle. There’s a lot of personality under all that hair!

01/16/2025
What are your intentions this week??….
01/15/2025

What are your intentions this week??….

Psych Saturday: First MeetingsI met with a couple of new people this week who were interested in working with me. Early ...
01/11/2025

Psych Saturday: First Meetings

I met with a couple of new people this week who were interested in working with me. Early in my career, these meetings were nerve racking. I worried about what they would think of me. Would they like me? Would they want to work with me? Would I be able to help them? That first meeting almost always fertile ground for my insecurity.

Over time those insecurities faded and with them the associated angst. I often feel like I owe those early career clients and apology. An apology for my self-absorbtion. An apology for actions grounded in my fear and self-doubt. An apology for the assumption that they were sick or broken. An apology for my arrogance in assuming that they needed me to heal them, or even that I could heal them.

There are a few important lessons I have learned in my decades of practice and teaching. The first is that everyone has within them a drive toward health and wellness. My job is not to heal the broken, but rather to help my clients discover that drive and find a way to unleash it on their way to wholeness and health. Another is that people are profoundly resourceful, even if they don’t know it. My job is to help people connect to their own resourcefulness on the pathway to their goals. Finally, the path to achieve all of this is connection and relationship. I need to be open, available, curious, kind, and connect in this way.

Over the last several months, I have watched Justin working with Wellington, a rescue from Heart of Phoenix. He has taken a different approach with him, moving more slowly and building relationship rather than forging ahead with a typical training schedule. I can’t help but see the parallels between my professional growth and Justin’s, both in his work with horses and how he talks about them. These days he is far less about showing off what he can do and much more about being curious and inviting the horses to work with him, taking the time to learn who they are and helping them bring their best selves to the training.

It is amazing to me how the world changes when act from self-acceptance and the resulting self-confidence. Our focus changes from concerns about ourselves to connecting with others. Insecurity, worry and self-doubt are all natural experiences. They are expected, especially when we are starting our journey down a new and exciting path. Rather than villainize these experiences, let’s notice, accept, and understand them as part of a process toward something better.

I can honestly say that meeting new clients these days is one of the most gratifying and enjoyable parts of my job. I look forward to getting to the place where I can bring the same perspective and attitude to my horsemanship. ~ Paul

We're getting excited about our 2025 schedule and looking forward to seeing some of you at our clinics this year.  Dates...
01/08/2025

We're getting excited about our 2025 schedule and looking forward to seeing some of you at our clinics this year. Dates to follow soon.

Snow arrived overnight at the farm and it's brought with it the intention of play.Dr Paul's intention is to play within ...
01/06/2025

Snow arrived overnight at the farm and it's brought with it the intention of play.
Dr Paul's intention is to play within practice.
Justin's intention is to play and still get things done.

How do you intend to bring play to your week?

Psych Saturday: Playing AlongOne of the great joys of the holidays is playing music with my boys. Some times we sit and ...
01/04/2025

Psych Saturday: Playing Along

One of the great joys of the holidays is playing music with my boys. Some times we sit and play the old family favorite folk songs. This year Justin and Luke played a number of “new”songs that they had learned and Luke played a song he wrote after our family visit to my mother in the hospital. (I can’t even think about the song without getting emotional… it is beautiful). There are times I join right in with the guitar, times I sit and soak it in, and times I stumble along on my stand-up bass.

One afternoon, Luke started playing the piano and I picked up my bass. He was playing Christmas tunes. I fumbled along and after several songs I had a profound realization. I had been learning the bass (scales, arpeggios, structured progressions). I had been practicing the bass. But.. I hadn’t been playing the bass. The operative word her being play. I was so dedicated to the structures of the lessons being taught that I didn’t allow time to play with the instrument and explore.

Yesterday I was working with a riding client who was asking about how to deal with her fear and the intrusive “What if…?” thoughts during her rides. And it hit me. She rides, just like so many of us, in the structures of her lessons, sticking closely to the traditions of her chosen discipline and her chosen mentors. She is practicing riding and had very little time invested in play.

This is so important for dealing with our fears. When we stick to rather constrained structured practice, especially if they are similar to the contexts in which we had an accident or injury, both the context, familiarity, and focus on performance (or not making mistakes) create an optimal environment for anxiety and negative thinking to creep in and fester.

When we truly play and explore, it captures and focuses our attention in a different way. That, in and of itself, sends the worries into the background. Then the knowledge and experience gained from the exploration, informs our riding in new and different ways. With anxiety and fear, knowledge is power. Knowledge gives us options, it feeds effective problem solving, it supports creativity, it inspires us to challenge ourselves, and more. The kind of debilitating fear and anxiety that robs us of our joy has a hard time taking root in spaces and places where we are excited and invested in exploration and play.

This morning I searched for folk music back-up tracks on YouTube. I picked a few simple ones and I played. I played with different sounds and progressions. I played with different positions on the neck. I played with searching out sounds that I first imagined in my mind and sounds that I discovered by accident. It was the first time in a long time that I genuinely had fun “practicing” the bass.

I strongly encourage everyone to play in their time with their horses. Explore different disciplines and traditions. Challenge yourself to build deeper understanding by asking questions like, “What does it really mean to have your horse in front of your leg?” Then see if there are different ways to understand it. And , last but not least, play with your horse. Explore and be curious and see what you can learn. ~ Paul

Leave your New Year Intention below!!
01/01/2025

Leave your New Year Intention below!!

Sorry for the last minute chaotic cancellation but this week's Casually Chaotic Conversation will need to be cancelled. ...
12/30/2024

Sorry for the last minute chaotic cancellation but this week's Casually Chaotic Conversation will need to be cancelled. Justin lost his voice and I am down with the cold he had. We look forward to reconnecting in the New Year! Wishing you all a joy-filled and safe New Years! ~ Paul

Psych Saturday (on Sunday): Mixing It Up for the HolidaysWe have a new tradition on Christmas morning. Everyone heads ov...
12/29/2024

Psych Saturday (on Sunday): Mixing It Up for the Holidays

We have a new tradition on Christmas morning. Everyone heads over to the farm early. Justin, along with his mother and brother, walk down to the barn and feed the horses together. Tara and I get breakfast cooking and guard the smoked salmon from Boone Dog and Birdie, the crazy kittens.

One of the greatest gifts of that morning is that all the usual routines are turned upside down, jumbled ,and all mixed up. Everyone gets to step into new roles and experience the joys of relating to each other in different ways. It is in those moments that the richness and texture of our relationships shine.

Sitting quietly across the living room in an overstuffed leather chair, with Knox dog in my lap, I was witness to joy and generosity, appreciation and playfulness, love and laughter. My kids often call me out for my sentimentality. Several moments that morning I was flooded with awe and gratitude for the gift of my family and the relationships they have with each other.

My dear friend Joe Lancia used to talk about the numinous; a deep sense of spiritual or mysterious awe, a connection to the divine or the transcendent. I always thought of that as related to the natural world but I now realize that it applies equally to our relationship with both our loved ones and the world.

There are so many opportunities in the holidays we celebrate to step away from our routines, to mix it up and relate to those we love in different ways, whether it be with family or friends or horses. As the New Year approaches I am setting my intention to search for those moments, enter into them, and celebrate them. Will you join me?

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