05/19/2025
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“Force-Free Doesn’t Work.” Do You Believe That—Or Just Say It?
Every now and then I pause and wonder:
Do people genuinely believe force-free training doesn’t work—like, deep down?
Or is it a defense mechanism? A rehearsed response? A way to avoid confronting the side effects of punishment?
Because I can be honest:
Yes, punishment can suppress behavior. It often gets fast results.
But I don’t like what it does alongside those results—
The fallout. The shutdown. The fear. The loss of trust.
So I don’t pretend it doesn’t work. I just question what it means to “work.”
Can we ask the same honesty in return?
Can those who preach balance admit that many “bad” behaviors were coping strategies?
Can they acknowledge the difference between obedience and emotional wellness?
Can they say, “Yes, it’s effective—but we don’t always talk about the cost?”
Can they acknowledge that suppression often fails—and not just because the trainer wasn’t skilled enough, but because the dog’s needs weren’t understood?
Take this argument I heard recently:
“Cooperative care in zoo animals is proof you can pair aversives with reinforcers to make it okay.”
That’s not just wrong. It’s revealing.
Because if you truly believe that cooperative care for wild animals is built on aversive control,
you’ve misunderstood everything about how trust-based handling in zoological and marine environments works.
The whole point is that you can’t use force—so you have to use understanding.
You have to go slow. You have to build trust.
And when you do, you don’t need the threat.
That’s not proof of punishment working.
That’s proof of what’s possible without it.
So when someone says “force-free doesn’t work,” I want to know:
What were you looking for?
What did you try?
What didn’t you understand?
Because if you’ve only measured “success” by suppression, you might not be seeing the full picture.
And if you have seen it, and still pretend it’s not real—
Then let’s call this what it is:
Not about truth.
Just about tribes.