Murph & Me Force-Free Dog Training + Behaviour

19/08/2024

09/07/2024

THE MURPH TURNS 10!! 🎉🤍🥳💙
Happy birthday my beautiful boy! The main man and my inspiration behind Murph & Me Force - Free Dog Training + Behaviour. Words cannot describe how grateful I am to have you here with me today. You are my absolute world and I will continue cherish every single moment I have with you. 💙

Murph you are the best dog in the whole world, my soul dog, my best friend and I can’t believe you’ve hit double digits already, what a mile stone! Time needs to slow down. I promise to continue to fight for you no matter what and strive to be as strong and as resilient as you’ve always been. I promise to continue to help all the dogs I possibly can and cherish everything you’ve taught me. 🤍

Today marks 5 beautiful years with Murph as today is not only his birthday but his Gotcha day. It’s been the most incredible 5 years and I truly am the luckiest girl alive to call Murph my best friend & family. 🤍

Love you Murph, happy birthday my boy 💙🎉

02/07/2024

ANTHROPOMORPHISM

THE GOOD / THE BAD AND WHERE TO DRAW THE LINE

This hard to pronounce and complicated sounding word – (anth-ro-po-morph-ism), means assigning human qualities, characteristics, emotions, feelings or motivations to our dogs (a non-human entity).

Advancements in canine neuroscience have revealed remarkable similarities between human and canine brain function, particularly in areas related to emotional processing.
This has given us far more understanding of canine cognition and emotion.

Although this is a great thing, it’s so important not to take anthropomorphism too far by assuming that our dogs experience emotions in exactly the same way that we do.

Dogs experience a similar range of emotions that would be seen in a 2 to 2 ½ year old child but are currently not thought to feel more complex emotions like guilt, shame, remorse, spite, pride or contempt.

Here is a link to a graphic that shows where a dog’s emotions are thought to stop in relation to the age of a child - bit.ly/canineemotions

Here are some examples of taking anthropomorphism too far:

“My dog knows exactly what he’s done – look how guilty he looks! No, your dog is reacting to your body language, tone of voice or remembers your previous reaction – this is fear, he is trying to appease you, calm you down, diffuse the situation.

“My dog chewed the couch just to get back at me for not taking him for a walk “ - No, your dog was probably bored, frustrated, lonely, had separation distress and was looking for a way to self-sooth or entertain himself.

“My dog pees inside just to spite me” – No, there could be a host of reasons, but spite is not one of them.

“My dog is just so stubborn” – No, find what is motivating, rewarding for your dog, are there too many distractions?

“Look at how proud my dog looks for winning the competition, graduating from a class, after being groomed etc” - No, your dog is reacting to your emotional state.

Instead of assuming that your dog is feeling “adult human emotions”, learn about body language and notice the context of the behaviour. This will provide a far more accurate idea of how dogs are really feeling.

Anthropomorphism is an essential tool in recognising a dog’s emotional state and allows us to have compassion, empathy, understanding and connection, but taking it too far is detrimental and undermines relationship.

25/06/2024

11/06/2024

🐾Although dogs descend from a common ancestor with wolves, they have undergone millennia of domestication and genetic engineering, resulting in distinct differences from their wild counterparts. Despite this misconceptions about canine behaviour persist, perpetuating unrealistic expectations and outdated training methods.

Such myths revolve around the idea of dogs as inherently naughty, stubborn, and trying to be the leader of the pack, requiring punishment for correction [1]. The original study of wolves and behaviour was conducted in 1947 by Rudolph Schenkel, who claimed that wolves hold a social position, the pack is controlled by a dominant male and female; and wolves fought within each other to establish top rank. This was disproved by Dr. Mech in 2000 [2].

The world evolves constantly yet the human race is still stuck on this notion. Qualified dog trainers and behaviourists are not trying to convince you that the world is flat, we are simply trying to improve your relationship with your dog without the use of outdated training mythology.

In reality; natural wolf groups function as family units, with parents as caregivers. Communication within the wolf group relies heavily on subtle cues, such as body language and facial expressions, rather than overt displays of aggression and dominance.

Despite scientific advancements debunking the alpha dog theory, some trainers continue to perpetuate these myths, advocating for dominance-based techniques. However, the lack of regulation in the industry allows such outdated practices to persist.

Understanding dogs requires acknowledging their individuality and respecting their preferences. Effective training involves environmental management, systematic desensitisation, and counter-conditioning, with the use of positive reinforcement; which helps dogs understand desired behaviours without resorting to punitive measures [3]. Embracing modern, evidence-based methods can build healthier, more respectful relationships with our canine companions.

Television also plays a significant role.

TV networks air shows for ratings, promoting trainers whose methods align with the dominance theory. Unfortunately, these methods often rely on coercion and correction, leading dogs to comply out of fear, NOT out of genuine willingness and understanding.

Dominance, often mistaken for a personality trait, is instead a survival response rooted in anxiety and fear. Moreover, punishing a dog for undesirable behaviour doesn't effectively communicate what you want them to do instead. Behaviours stem from emotions, and punishment fails to address these emotional struggles.

Supporting your dog through their emotional struggles can effectively improve their behaviour over time[ 4]. It’s understandable that people use inappropriate methods and techniques as they are desperate and don’t know how else to manage the problems they are facing with their dog.

Today, qualified professionals understand that the relationship between dogs and humans isn't about asserting social rank. Instead, it's about creating an environment where the dog feels safe and supported. This involves managing their surroundings to prevent situations where they might struggle or fail, and consistently rewarding behaviours we want to encourage.

[1] 2008, Position Statement on the Use of Dominance Theory in Behavior Modification of Animals, AVSAB, https://avsab.org/.../Dominance_Position_Statement...

[2]Mech, L. David. 1999. Alpha status, dominance, and division of labor in wolf packs. Canadian Journal of Zoology 77:1196-1203.
Jamestown, ND: Northern Prairie Wildlife Research Center Home Page. http://www.npwrc.usgs.gov/resource/2000/alstat/alstat.htm
(Version 16MAY2000).

[3] Herron M, Shofer S, Reisner I, 2009, Survey of the use and outcome of confrontational and non-confrontational training methods in client-owned dogs showing undesired behaviors, Applied Animal Behaviour Science, Volume 117, Issues 1–2, Pages 47-54

[4] Herron M, Shofer F, Reisner I, 2009, Survey of the use and outcome of confrontational and non-confrontational training methods in client-owned dogs showing undesired behaviors, Applied Animal Behavior Science, Volume 117, Issue-12, https://www.sciencedirect.com/.../pii/S0168159108003717...

18/05/2024

The Yawn - Murph & Me’s Dog Body Language Guide 🤍

Taking the time to understand what our dogs are communicating helps us to have valuable insight to their internal emotional states.

Yawns outside of sleeping or resting contexts indicate signals on how your dog may be feeling and provide valuable information on how you can help your dog feel more comfortable within certain situations.

However, it’s crucial to remember that interpreting your dog’s body language requires consideration of the entire context of the situation. You must account for all aspects of their behaviour and body language signals to get an understanding.

Keep an eye out for more guidance on your dogs body language. ♥️🐶

11/05/2024

Dogs are incredibly resilient when it comes to feeling or showing pain, ensure you’re always advocating for your dog if you suspect any pain or discomfort. Often underlying medical issues or pain can be a big contributor to behaviour challanges, which is why I recommend a vet check if there’s sudden change to your dogs behaviour.

16/04/2024

THE IMPORTANCE OF WORDS.🤍

10/04/2024

DO DOGS RECOGNISE & PREFER SIMILAR BREEDS?
If you have ever taken your dog out to where there are other dogs, you may have noticed that some dogs are more attracted to particular breeds.

Why is this? Although there is no formal research that concludes that dogs are more attracted to certain breeds and not others, I believe there is a plausible explanation for this.

Individual breeds have unique face and body shapes, use different styles of body language and have different ways of playing which a similar breed recognises and relates to. They simply understand the finer details of each other’s language.

The communication style makes perfect sense to them, but may not be as well understood by other breed types.

A negative or positive past experience with a particular breed may also have an impact on a dog’s perception and reaction to that breed.

When I take my Schnauzers out, they get very excited if they see other Schnauzers and immediately want to go over to say hello. They do the same with Airedale Terriers, Scotties and Maltese, but tend not to be interested or keep away from other breeds.

Have you noticed that your dog seems to naturally understand or communicate more easily with dogs of their own breed or similar type?

28/03/2024

GRADUATION 2024 ♥️
Reflecting on my journey to becoming an animal behaviourist fills me with immense gratitude and joy. It all began with a simple desire to make a difference, to extend a helping hand to those dogs in need. Little did I know that this journey would unfold in such a beautiful and transformative way.

Fostering was my first step 6 years ago. A decision driven by wanting to make a difference in this world. And then, fate introduced me to Murph, my soul dog who ignited a passion within me that would shape my future. He showed me the profound depths and complexity of fear in animals and the misunderstood emotions that reside within them.

With Murph's inspiration, I embarked on my educational journey with COAPE International, eager to unravel the mysteries of animal behaviour. It was the best decision I’ve ever made! I took my first steps into the world of animal behaviour with the CO1 course. I then proudly became a certified trainer, eager to learn more! Thereafter I went straight into my Diploma in Animal Behaviour with COAPE International.

Studying for my diploma opened my eyes to the intricate layers of animal behaviour— from their core emotional systems to the nuances of neurology and genetics and that’s just the tip of the iceberg . I was also introduced to MHERA an extraordinary emotionality assessment protocol. With each lesson, I grew more determined to fulfill my promise to myself: to become a beacon of understanding and compassion for every dog that crossed my path.

Along the way, I found myself surrounded by a community of kindred spirits—passionate individuals dedicated to advocating for the emotional lives of animals. Together, we forged bonds that will last a lifetime, united in our mission to educate and raise awareness.

Dogs have become the heart of my existence, and I am committed to continuous growth and education. I pledge to be a voice for the misunderstood, a voice for the voiceless, and an advocate for ethical and humane treatment of animals. With every step, I will strive to educate that the MYTH that force or punishment is necessary to aid animals in their emotional and behavioural struggles is just that. A myth and is 100% NOT necessary. Our animals deserve so much better. ♥️

To the remarkable team at COAPE International and the countless souls I've met along this path, I am eternally grateful to have you in my life. To Michaela who’s been a beacon of strength as we conquered this diploma together!! And to my beloved Murph, who has been my soul dog & my companion through it all, thank you for being my guiding star Mooz. I’m so grateful to have you by my side.

As I look ahead to the future, I am filled with excitement and anticipation. Who could have imagined that one decision could lead to such a profound and fulfilling journey? I am so proud of all that I have achieved, and I eagerly embrace the adventures that lie ahead. Here's to the next chapter—may it be as remarkable as the journey that has brought me here. 😊🙌🏻

26/03/2024

Many calls I get are from concerned parents after their dog has snapped or bitten their child. This usually happens when the child approaches the dog while resting or just being comfortable.

👦Toddlers especially are prone to a bite for giving a kiss goodnight. The awkward and unsteady tiny human is concerning to dogs. Dogs will offer signals prior to a bite but often we miss them as they happen fast.

❗This is why we suggest blowing a kiss, waving night night or as The Family Dog suggests kissing your hand and then touching your dog. Children leaning down on to a dog to give a kiss is often seen as threatening to the dog and we don’t want any unfortunate bites to happen. Keep this in mind and express love from a dog’s mindset.

❗Give space, stay out of their face. Dog and baby on the scene a parent in between. Most of all INVITES DECREASE BITES.

11/02/2024

Brilliant 🙌🏻

24/12/2023

Murph & Me here to wish you all a very Merry Christmas and happy festive season ♥️🥂🎄

Murph & Me Force-Free Dog Training + Behaviour will be closed until 12 January 2024.

I truly do appreciate all of my clients tremendous support this past year. ❤️ Each of you has shown such dedication and hard work in guiding your dogs, and I encourage you to reflect on your journey, celebrate all the victories, and be proud of your progress. 😊

Take this time to RELAX, have FUN, and ENJOY special moments with your dogs and family during the holidays. 🎉❤️

Wishing you an incredible festive season and a Happy New Year from Murph & Me! 😊🥳🥂

16/11/2023

EMOTIONS MATTER!
Dog’s emotions really do matter, far more than we may realise.

Emotions matter because emotional states drive behaviour.

Think about how our emotions have a direct affect on our behaviour – we may lash out at others because of the emotions of fear, anger or frustration. Be irritable if we are tired or in pain. Struggle to focus or learn something new if we are stressed or anxious, shut down or over react if we feel insecure or unsafe ….

When a dog’s emotional needs and well-being are not supported and not addressed, behaviour problems are often seen.

Unwanted behaviour shouldn’t be looked at independently or as a specific problem that needs to be fixed.

When needs are met, when emotions are recognised, when body language is understood and listened to, a dog’s emotional state will change, which will in turn bring about positive changes in behaviour.

These are the foundations on which behaviour change is built.

03/11/2023

Dogs behave the way they do for many reasons. They do NOT do things deliberately to be stubborn or ‘naughty’, nor do they aim to assert control. Outdated mythologies and training methods have detrimental effects on well-being and strain the relationship between a dog and their caregiver.

🧬A dog's breed and genetic makeup can play a significant role in determining certain behavioural traits. Dogs have genetic predispositions and breed-specific tendencies that contribute to their behaviour.
Some breeds are predisposed to specific behaviours, such as herding, hunting, or guarding.

The environment in which a dog is raised and lives can profoundly impact their behaviour. Early socialisation, which involves exposing a puppy to a wide range of people, animals, and environments during their critical developmental period, is crucial for building confidence and shaping a dog's social behaviour to reduce fear or aggression.

Overstimulation can cause all kinds of unwanted behaviours as it overwhelms their senses and can lead to hyperactivity or erratic responses. For example, if a dog is exposed to loud noises, multiple people, and various stimuli all at once, or on a daily basis, they might exhibit excessive excitable behaviour, poor impulse control, become agitated and exhibit behaviours like jumping, barking, or pulling on the leash, as their senses are overwhelmed by the excessive input.

Previous experiences and learning consequences can influence a dog's behaviour. Traumatic experiences, in particular, can lead to fear, anxiety, or aggression.

How a dog is trained and educated by their caregiver or handler can significantly affect their behaviour. Consistent, positive reinforcement-based training can lead to desired behaviours, while harsh or inconsistent methods can result in confusion or fear.

A dog's health, including their physical and mental well-being, can influence their behaviour. Illness, pain, or discomfort can lead to changes in behaviour.

A dog's emotional state, including fear, anxiety, and excitement, can affect their behaviour. For example, a fearful dog may display unpredictable defensive reactive behaviours or might avoid any encounters and run away trying to hide. While a confident dog may exhibit playfulness and a relaxed demeanour.

A dog can become frustrated and destructive if their mental and physical needs are not met. This dog, full of pent-up energy and boredom, may become frustrated and exhibit poor impulse control. In their frustration, they might resort to destructive behaviours, such as chewing furniture, digging up the garden, or incessant barking. This destructive behaviour is often an expression of their frustration and an attempt to alleviate their built-up energy and mental stress.

The type of diet a dog receives can significantly influence their behaviour, with high-quality nutrition promoting better energy levels, mood, and overall well-being, while poor diet choices can lead to issues like irritability, hyperactivity, or digestive problems.

As dogs age, they may experience canine cognitive decline, which can manifest as changes in memory, learning, and behaviour. This condition can lead to increased confusion, disorientation, and altered social interactions in older dogs.

It is really important to understand that each dog is unique, and their behaviour can vary widely, even within the same breed. Dogs use body language, vocalizations, and other forms of communication to express their needs, emotions, and intentions. Understanding a dog's communication cues is essential for interpreting their behaviour.

27/10/2023

GO BOKKE 🇿🇦🔥♥️
Murph & Me wishing the Springboks an epic win tomorrow!! 🙌🏻

19/10/2023

When you follow your curiosity and passion, dreams take flight 🌟🐘

Just last week, I flew to Johannesburg and then drove to Limpopo for an unforgettable adventure with & 🐘

We delved into the captivating world of these majestic creatures and immersed ourselves in the art of MHERA emotionality assessments.

What truly captivated my heart was witnessing the remarkable way these elephants are trained – through positive reinforcement and the power of CHOICE. These gentle giants, with all the freedom in the world, taught and solidified the fact that force, fear & punishment are unnecessary in the realm of animal connection, training & behaviour. A simple clicker and their favorite fruits was all that was needed. 🍌 🍊

The lesson learned resonates deeply: if we can communicate, educate, and form profound connections with these majestic elephants through kindness and positive reinforcement, we stand as a testament to the fact that there are infinitely better ways than punishment or aversive methods for our domestic animals. ♥️

These elephants are cherished, their well-being paramount to the handlers, and watching them immerse themselves with unwavering joy in their job was a symphony of happiness. Their love for what they do radiates, proving that when you embrace your passion, it shines through in all that you do.

This adventure was nothing short of extraordinary, etching its place in my memories for a lifetime and reminder that following your dreams leads to extraordinary moments that last a lifetime. 🌟🐘💫