06/11/2024
How to Make a Horse Spooky๐ซ
This photo was taken 10 years ago. While itโs easy to pick apart what I clearly didnโt know at the time, one thing I can tell you is that I was very confident๐ช.
If youโd asked me to train that horse in any behaviour, I could. If I needed to get that horse to do something, I could. In that photo, I was skilled in training behaviours. I could get horses to do things, and I felt the power of that.
But this horse, Saxon, was spooky, and it took me a while to realise that, despite my confidence and skill, I had accidentally made him this way.
It was almost comicalโgoing from a nervous, inexperienced rider who was making her horse spooky, to a super-confident, skilled rider who was doing the same thing with a different horse๐ฑ!
By then, I was working with many horses who werenโt spooky, so why was this one?
How was this happening? What was I doing wrong?
There were a number of reasons, but the biggest one was that I was only seeing everything as behaviour. I didnโt realise that while I was riding him, I was also influencing how he feltโฆand I was making him feel pretty terrible.๐
Why? Because I wanted perfect behaviour, and I was relentless. I was micromanaging him, flooding him with constant pressure, overworking both his mind and body.
From his perspective, I was making him feel threatened. When I was on his back, he felt alarmed. If something in the environment added to that sense of alarm, it would result in reactivity, as he couldnโt process his surroundings with an overloaded sensory system. So he would spookโor, at the very least, move with tension.
There were other things I was doing wrong. But this story shows how sensitive, spooky, nervous, tense, reactive horses are created in a variety of waysโand being confident or skilled doesnโt stop you from making mistakes.
Being skilled doesnโt mean youโre immune to ignorance๐ก.
It also says something about me. In both extremesโthe nervous rider creeping around, trying to protect my horse from the world, versus the confident, hard-taskmaster micromanagerโI was trying to control uncertainty. Nervous-rider me was trying to control the environment, while confident me was trying to control the horse.
Now, I realise itโs not control Iโm seeking but influence, and itโs more than just training. Itโs about the decisions I make on what and how to train, where and how I do it, and basing each of those decisions on how the horse is feelingโall to build their trust and confidence.
This journey requires creativity, grounding, and humility to keep ego in check.
I released The Sensitive, Spooky, Nervous Horse Resource a few days ago. Its purpose is to raise awareness of the creative, strategic approach we need to build a partnership with a horseโค๏ธ.
This process requires an understanding of the horse as a species. Saxon was just being a horse, and his responses are completely predictable to me today. It also requires self-awarenessโunderstanding that, regardless of what you think youโre doing, the horseโs reactions may show it feels threatened, and you need to figure out why. Along the way, youโre bound to make mistakes that might seem logical at the time but arenโt.
But can it be worked out? Absolutely. Itโs about understanding, awareness, and strategy so you can make the best decisions for your horseโs welfare๐ค.
Details are in the usual placeโฌ๏ธ.
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