11/29/2025
đIt takes an iron will and a soft heartđ
Some horse trainers and coaches who stay in this business for the long haul arenât just toughâtheyâre forged from grit, passion, and an iron will to make a difference. Theyâre the ones who spend their nights replaying training rides in their minds, planning new approaches, and searching for the tiny adjustments that might unlock a horseâs understanding or help a rider finally âget it.â
There is no switch that turns their brain off. Caring this deeply costs something.
Because the truth is: this industry is not kind. It demands far more than it gives. It asks for early mornings, late nights, emotional energy, and physical sacrificeâand it seldom repays that effort with money. Most days, the real paycheck isnât financial at all. Itâs the quiet triumph of a horse trusting again, a once-frustrated rider smiling ear to ear, or a breakthrough that took months to earn. Those moments donât pay the bills, but they keep devoted trainers in the saddle.
The long haulers are a different breed. They give up evenings out, weekends off, family gatherings, sick days, and holidaysâbecause horses donât understand calendars, and progress doesnât pause. They learn to balance burnout with responsibility, passion with pressure. They learn to protect whatâs left of their time and energy. They learn to say noâsometimes to clients, sometimes to opportunities, sometimes to the version of themselves that would give everything away.
Over time, they become both tougher and softerâtough enough to withstand the weight of the job, soft enough to still care deeply. They guard their heart because theyâve poured it into countless horses and riders who may never fully understand the sacrifice behind their success.
Hereâs to those who stay. Those who hold the line through exhaustion, doubt, and the quiet moments no one sees. Those who keep showing up with sweat on their brow, patience in their pocket, and hope in their hands.
Youâre the backbone of this industryânot because you make a living in it, but because you give a life to it. đ´đ
Photo of my problem child horse. We have been together 28 years. He was a dream come true and a headache all at the same time. He was terrified of his own shadow and took years to get confident in the show atmosphere. He went on to help my son learn to ride his first changes. Today he still graces my pastures but he is slower and no longer worried about anything except whether or not I have the right flavor cookies in my pocket