04/09/2024
THE 3-3-3 RULE OF RE-HOMING
For those of you who may not have come across it before, the 3-3-3 rule pops up frequently on Facebook, particularly in groups for fearful dog guardians. In essence, the message is this: it takes three days for a dog in a new home to relax a little, three weeks to settle in, and three months to be fully comfortable, thus demonstrating that the process takes time. But how helpful is this?
This has been on my mind a lot since bringing Max home a week ago. He seems to have settled in extraordinarily quickly, considering he has never lived in a house before. Toilet training has been a breeze, helped, no doubt, by the fact that he has a grown-up sized bladder, unlike a pupppy, and enjoys spending time outdoors.
He is used to being around lots of other dogs, so now that he has just Trigger for company, my now fairly geriatric hound, he is getting plenty of rest and has taken to the sofas and beds like you wouldn't believe! He has a lovely nature and loves to cuddle up, which I like to think is helping him to gain a sense of safety and security.
I expected the stairs to take a bit of figuring out, but he scrutinised them for a few seconds before attempting them, and they proved no match for Mighty Max, an agile and athletic running hound. He happily ambles up and down them multiple times a day, and likes to include them in his chosen route for zoomies!
Then we come to "Mirror Max", the handsome devil of a hound who showed up when Max glanced in the shiny things in the bedroom. "Mirror Max" disappeared immediately after the shiny things were covered up, which caused a bit of confusion, but as Max is generally quite confident, I decided to gradually uncover the mirrors bit by bit to help desensitise him to his reflection. The mirrors have been completely uncovered since last night, taking a week to do this, and so far, Max has not been bothered again by "Mirror Max".
My husband disturbed Max when he was visiting the bathroom at about 3am this morning, so I thought I'd better take Max outside for "garden wee wees", just in case. Max was happily watering the grass, when he shot off like a rocket! I couldn't understand what had happened, until I looked closely at where he had been standing, and staring up at me were two toads, rather dazzled by my phone torch. It seems the big, strapping lad of a Trailhound is scared of toads, so I will need to do a toad check prior to his next early morning visit to the little boy's room.
So how does all of this relate to the 3-3-3 rule?
I have made a conscious effort not to compare Max to Jack, despite coming from identical backgrounds, as it is so important to remember that every dog is different. We need to allow for varying confidence and resilience levels, but we should also not forget that other factors, such as genetic components and previous learning experiences, will contribute hugely towards how long a dog might take to feel truly settled. Even for dogs of the same breed like Jack and Max, who were the same age at the point of re-homing, recently neutered, never lived in a home nor experienced very much before, are still so different in personality and confidence levels. Max loves people and other dogs, whereas Jack was quite anxious around unknown dogs and people. Jack wasn't keen on sharing space with Trigger, whereas Max wants to be his cuddle buddy. Jack used to revel in his reflection of handsomeness, and never ran away from toads. He also had no issues with flooring surfaces, but Mighty Max was perplexed by the kitchen laminate (he's been thoroughly checked over at the vets, as trouble with flooring can be an indictator for pain). So many similarities, yet also many differences.
There are lots of reasons why I choose to disregard the 3-3-3 rule, which you can read about in more detail here:
https://www.trailiepawsforthought.com/post/the-3-3-3-rule-help-or-hindrance
The bottom line has to be: don’t be tempted to rush things or try to find shortcuts. Treat each dog as the wonderful individual they are, and TAKE THINGS SLOWLY. FEELING SAFE TAKES AS LONG AS IT TAKES!
© Trailie Paws For Thought
www.trailiepawsforthought.com
I’m very happy for all of my content to be shared, but please do not copy and paste (to avoid sharing from source), screenshot, or download any part of it. THANK YOU! 🐾 🐾