09/11/2024
How to Make a Horse SpookyđŤ
This photo was taken 10 years ago. While itâs easy to pick apart what I clearly didnât know at the time, one thing I can tell you is that I was very confidentđŞ.
If youâd asked me to train that horse in any behaviour, I could. If I needed to get that horse to do something, I could. In that photo, I was skilled in training behaviours. I could get horses to do things, and I felt the power of that.
But this horse, Saxon, was spooky, and it took me a while to realise that, despite my confidence and skill, I had accidentally made him this way.
It was almost comicalâgoing from a nervous, inexperienced rider who was making her horse spooky, to a super-confident, skilled rider who was doing the same thing with a different horseđą!
By then, I was working with many horses who werenât spooky, so why was this one?
How was this happening? What was I doing wrong?
There were a number of reasons, but the biggest one was that I was only seeing everything as behaviour. I didnât realise that while I was riding him, I was also influencing how he feltâŚand I was making him feel pretty terrible.đ
Why? Because I wanted perfect behaviour, and I was relentless. I was micromanaging him, flooding him with constant pressure, overworking both his mind and body.
From his perspective, I was making him feel threatened. When I was on his back, he felt alarmed. If something in the environment added to that sense of alarm, it would result in reactivity, as he couldnât process his surroundings with an overloaded sensory system. So he would spookâor, at the very least, move with tension.
There were other things I was doing wrong. But this story shows how sensitive, spooky, nervous, tense, reactive horses are created in a variety of waysâand being confident or skilled doesnât stop you from making mistakes.
Being skilled doesnât mean youâre immune to ignoranceđĄ.
It also says something about me. In both extremesâthe nervous rider creeping around, trying to protect my horse from the world, versus the confident, hard-taskmaster micromanagerâI was trying to control uncertainty. Nervous-rider me was trying to control the environment, while confident me was trying to control the horse.
Now, I realise itâs not control Iâm seeking but influence, and itâs more than just training. Itâs about the decisions I make on what and how to train, where and how I do it, and basing each of those decisions on how the horse is feelingâall to build their trust and confidence.
This journey requires creativity, grounding, and humility to keep ego in check.
I released The Sensitive, Spooky, Nervous Horse Resource a few days ago. Its purpose is to raise awareness of the creative, strategic approach we need to build a partnership with a horseâ¤ď¸.
This process requires an understanding of the horse as a species. Saxon was just being a horse, and his responses are completely predictable to me today. It also requires self-awarenessâunderstanding that, regardless of what you think youâre doing, the horseâs reactions may show it feels threatened, and you need to figure out why. Along the way, youâre bound to make mistakes that might seem logical at the time but arenât.
But can it be worked out? Absolutely. Itâs about understanding, awareness, and strategy so you can make the best decisions for your horseâs welfaređ¤.
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