01/16/2022
So true.....
Nothing says “We truly care about the welfare of dogs and owners” like adopting out dogs who will inevitably be terrible or dangerous fits for owners—and then retuned, often with a serious strike against them for biting. It’s like a game of hot potatoe. The only goal is to get rid of (sorry, “place”) the current dog, so the next one can come in. The details and fallout aren’t—for either species—a concern, just the numbers and appearance of progress.
Along with that, many rescues also have nearly impossible standards for the new home to meet, in order for the prospective owners to be considered. Of course, as stated above, that’s a one way consideration for most. The humans have to be perfect—because “humans suck”, but the dogs—because they’re innocent victims—can be absolute disasters, and that’s to be sucked up by the humans…if they wish to redeem their poor standing.
And lastly, I can’t tell you how many clients we’ve had, whose dogs have had serious behavior issues—that were almost without exception either played down tremendously or completely omitted—who have bitten, or have threatened to, or who’ve had some other extreme issues, and who would be on the return, re-home, euthanasia list—and their owners have been told they aren’t allowed to seek any training besides the accepted purely positive/force-free variety.
So these lucky owners, who’ve found themselves in a nasty, stressful, dangerous situation, are caught between secretly breaking the contract and getting the best help possible—or honoring the contract and having to endure dealing with the ongoing issues with only the ridiculous protocols, “tools”, and methods they’re okay to use.
Luckily, we’ve had many owners who actually cared about the dog and their future more than the inane contracts and ideological BS, and sadly have had to secretly have their dogs trained with us. Which is why so many dogs we train you never see—because the owners tick the box of “no social media” to protect themselves, and the dog they care about. Imagine a doctor who is SO concerned about their client’s welfare that they preclude them from searching out any other options than the ones they personally subscribe to. They’d just be looking out for the client—you know, to ensure they don’t veer off the path that the one, single source of knowledge has decreed acceptable. So kind, so caring, so ethical.
And yet, this happens all the time. And I’m sure there are many, many other trainers who’ve experienced precisely the same thing. Whether that be withheld information (knowledge of past behavior), fabricated information (the sob story of abuse and neglect), or training restrictions.
My suggestion is to choose your rescue—if you choose to go that route—extremely carefully. If you sense emotional manipulation, obfuscation, or limits on what kind of training you’re allowed to pursue, run. You’re talking about a potential 15 year commitment, and one that can be amazing, or heartbreaking. And while there’s no guarantees, regardless how careful you are, the fewer the red flags and limitations, the far better your chances of finding a great situation with the dog you bring into your life. And while that SHOULD be the goal of the rescues as well, the reality is it’s often not the case. Which means, it’s on you. Tread carefully, and don’t be bullied by any rescue nonsense. There’s always more options out there, and many highly ethical rescue organizations who DO want the best for all parties. Find them.